Quote From: wings4vrO.k...I'm seriously infuriated. James needs a "personality overhaul". Culture is one thing, but he sounds like a complete control freak who could possible escalate into severe violence. I would bet at some point he has probably already hit her. Dr. Phil, if that lady is smart, she'll take the walking papers. This is the United States of America. Everyone has equal oppotunity. Why on earthh would that woman want to be a prisoner in her own environment?
Unbelievable! this is the 21st century and we still have men like James that think they can control their spouse and children. I had a sister who married an Asian man, too. He controlled their life, their finances, the way the eat, drink, talk, talked down to my sister and more. He thought he was the king and my sister was the servant that cooked, cleaned and took care of the kids. He did not physically abuse her but he certainly mentally abused her. Finally after 13 years (which was too long), she finally made the right decision - my sister divorced the "jerk"!!! Now my sister, has her dignity back, lives life to the fullest, works, has skills, makes her own decision and is happier than ever. Roseanna - leave him, he will not change - control freak will always be a control freak - just like drugs. YOU will survive without James and you will be a better person than you can imagine. It will be hard work but it is worth it!!! You do not need anyone to CONTROL YOU! You are beautiful, wonderful and smart woman. This is not about the race it is about treating people with respect and dignity. James is not a leader - he is a "loser"!!! Move on Roseanna!!
All the best and may your life blossom someday soon :)
