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It's replies like yours that have me upset!  "Here is an update for all you mom's who formula fed by choice,"  How condesending and insulting is that?  If that isn't bad enough you go on to ass u me you know what people are thinking when making the choice to bottle feed or breast feed!  "as soon as the baby is here you think your job is done."  and of course the insinuation is that mothers who are bottle feeding  have this  reckless abandon attitude & we're not as serious about making certain our babies are healthy!  Again I say you don't know what you're talking about!   

And when you try to have empathy for those who "chose formula"  & yet are saying they are inferior & unable to fulfill their duties   I just cannot believe your gall! "For all those mothers who chose to formula feed because they couldn't fulfill their duties, I feel sorry that you didn't get to have the experience that all of us nursing mothers had. "  How insensitive can you be?   

I loved the idea of breast feeding & had wanted to prior to my sons birth (I won't get into the reason I didn't) but I will say that I had many friends who'd breast fed their babies & they never judged me or anyone who didn't as harshly as you do!  I'd gone to help during the initial stages when they were settling into their feeding routines & the babies were being taught to eat.  Being friends they of course where there to help me when I'd brought home my twin sons & never did they try to make me feel less of a mother because of my decision.   

My twins sons are now 22 yrs. old.  They're happy, healthy & while you feel that breast feeding is the "only true way to feed a baby" I can assure that what I was doing was indeed FEEDING them & nurturing in every sense of the word!  How dare you suggest any different.  You've no idea why the decision to breast feed is or isn't made & how could you unless you know all women & they're reasons?  I could sit here & give the reasons why I decided to bottle feed but that's unimportant & more than likely would fall on deaf ears because you're already outraged at anyone who doesn't breast feed.  This is clearly why you'd be cruel enough to point out the babies who may have starved during the after math of the hurricane because they're bottle fed babies.  Shame on you! 

As far as debating I LOVE the idea of debating it because any discussion will inspire communication & understanding rather than more damning of people who don't understand.  Bringing to light how this makes people feel when they're told to go to the bathroom to feed their baby will shine a light for those who hadn't seen it this way!  You're an educator who doesn't know this?