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I've been reading these boards for awhile and use to post years ago.  Well here I am back and wanting to post about my boyfriend.  I met this man online about 3mths. ago.  He's really cute and at first had a great personality.  He told me very quickly that he had strong feelings for me but wasn't sure if it was love.  I told him time will tell so we have been dating and staying the night with one another.  I am 44 and he is 45yrs. old.  We both have great jobs.  I am so annoyed by the fact that this man never pays for anything!  When we went away one weekend which he invited me I payed for almost everything!  We even took my car and I payed for all the gas and even pumped it!  He never even offered!  When we go anywhere his excuses are that he lost his Debit card or doesn't want to pay with a credit card because of finance charges or he left his wallet at home!  Or he will just sit or stand there looking at me and giving me the go ahead to pay.  I quit going anywhere with him because he is making me damn broke!  He has a 16yr. old daughter who is always demanding money from him and I've watched him almost on a daily basis give him every dollar and cent on him!  When we do anything this girl calls everytime demanding he bring her money or take her to get something to eat.  You know what he drops what were doing and goes and takes care of her demands.  I got so mad at him one time when we were sitting down to eat a dinner that took me awhile to prepare well his ex-wife called demanding he come get his daughter and take her shopping for school supplies she needed because she was broke!  He actually was out of my house in 15 seconds of that call!  When I got mad at him about it and said something he got mad at me and accused me of keeping him from doing his fatherly duties!!!  He then broke up with me!  I was like well good!  He then was right back in 2 days begging for forgiveness.  This stuff has never ended with his daughter and ex.  The daughter never says hello to me or makes any eye contact with me and pretends I'm not even there.  I find it very disrespectful and shameful on my BF's part for allowing her to be that way to me.  If I say anything to him about her he will just yell at me and start putting me down like he has done several times.  My kids are grown and on there own doing very well so I have alot of time on my hands.  This guy gets mad at me if I don't come by his house everytime I'm near his house.  He's mad at me if I don't call him all day.  Everytime he gets mad at me he calls me on the phone and tells me what an angry person I am all the time to him and how forgetful I am about our plans.  He will ask me which personality is he talking to this time... He makes me feel like something is wrong with me and tries to convince me that something is wrong with me.  OMG!  I think the only thing wrong with me is that I keep taking his crap!  I take him back everytime.  He tells me all the time I have a problem with communication.  I have been single for 3yrs. and all my adult life all I have done is work and raise my sons.  There is nothing wrong with me mentally and I'm not crazy.  I don't know though why I keep this man around.  Honest to god not one time have I ever picked a fight with him nor done anything intentionally to this man.  He says he wants a future with me.  He is buying a house he can't afford and I told him last night all his money will go to make a mortgage and barely enough for household bills.  His response was well what's left will go to my daughter and what she needs.  I asked him well what about us and he said well we have to stay home unless you want to pay.  What kind of answer is that? 

I'm so fed up with this crap but don't seem to have the courage to break it off for good and don't really know why?

Any feedback out there????

Cindy

Thank You

I've been reading these boards for awhile and use to post years ago.  Well here I am back and wanting to post about my boyfriend.  I met this man online about 3mths. ago.  He's really cute and at first had a great personality.  He told me very quickly that he had strong feelings for me but wasn't sure if it was love.  I told him time will tell so we have been dating and staying the night with one another.  I am 44 and he is 45yrs. old.  We both have great jobs.  I am so annoyed by the fact that this man never pays for anything!  When we went away one weekend which he invited me I payed for almost everything!  We even took my car and I payed for all the gas and even pumped it!  He never even offered!  When we go anywhere his excuses are that he lost his Debit card or doesn't want to pay with a credit card because of finance charges or he left his wallet at home!  Or he will just sit or stand there looking at me and giving me the go ahead to pay.  I quit going anywhere with him because he is making me damn broke!  He has a 16yr. old daughter who is always demanding money from him and I've watched him almost on a daily basis give him every dollar and cent on him!  When we do anything this girl calls everytime demanding he bring her money or take her to get something to eat.  You know what he drops what were doing and goes and takes care of her demands.  I got so mad at him one time when we were sitting down to eat a dinner that took me awhile to prepare well his ex-wife called demanding he come get his daughter and take her shopping for school supplies she needed because she was broke!  He actually was out of my house in 15 seconds of that call!  When I got mad at him about it and said something he got mad at me and accused me of keeping him from doing his fatherly duties!!!  He then broke up with me!  I was like well good!  He then was right back in 2 days begging for forgiveness.  This stuff has never ended with his daughter and ex.  The daughter never says hello to me or makes any eye contact with me and pretends I'm not even there.  I find it very disrespectful and shameful on my BF's part for allowing her to be that way to me.  If I say anything to him about her he will just yell at me and start putting me down like he has done several times.  My kids are grown and on there own doing very well so I have alot of time on my hands.  This guy gets mad at me if I don't come by his house everytime I'm near his house.  He's mad at me if I don't call him all day.  Everytime he gets mad at me he calls me on the phone and tells me what an angry person I am all the time to him and how forgetful I am about our plans.  He will ask me which personality is he talking to this time... He makes me feel like something is wrong with me and tries to convince me that something is wrong with me.  OMG!  I think the only thing wrong with me is that I keep taking his crap!  I take him back everytime.  He tells me all the time I have a problem with communication.  I have been single for 3yrs. and all my adult life all I have done is work and raise my sons.  There is nothing wrong with me mentally and I'm not crazy.  I don't know though why I keep this man around.  Honest to god not one time have I ever picked a fight with him nor done anything intentionally to this man.  He says he wants a future with me.  He is buying a house he can't afford and I told him last night all his money will go to make a mortgage and barely enough for household bills.  His response was well what's left will go to my daughter and what she needs.  I asked him well what about us and he said well we have to stay home unless you want to pay.  What kind of answer is that? 

I'm so fed up with this crap but don't seem to have the courage to break it off for good and don't really know why?

Any feedback out there????

Cindy

Thank You