Replies to '10/06 "Stand Up for Yourself!"'

I agree that Women should Leave, but WHY WOMEN DON'T LEAVE is.......I think you are tired.  You are too tired to deal with UNTANGLING the VERY TANGLED BALL OF YARN.  Like if you look at Joan.  She comes on this show and says:  her husband won't let her take a shower every day but only every other day.  She is experiencing this.  Now she comes on the Dr. Phil show and tells him and tells us all.  Now Dr.  Phil asks her husband something to the effect:  "Is Joan not allowed to have a shower every day?"  And James answers:  "No, she can have a shower whenever she wants."  Which in essence he's saying:  Nope My wife is lying.  So this is the Dr. Phil show, but imagine this in real life and Joan came to you as a friend and said:  My husband won't let me take a shower every day.  You would kind of tilt your head and look at her strange and think that's weird, but I don't think it would be taken seriously ESPECIALLY when her husband then comes along and says:  OH NO SHE CAN HAVE A SHOWER ANYTIME SHE WANTS.  But this is just one detail.... I mean it could be the ORANGE JUICE thing with the other lady.  I can relate to alot of the control things.  I could probably list 50 equally as crazy in my own situations.  I looked at places to live 2 months ago.  And it is in the back of my mind.  I have a job though so I have a normal 1/2 of my life too.  I think I have energy to do something fun, but I don't have energy to do something hard.  I remember one argument I had with my husband this has been awhile back like 8 years.  It was a 4 hour arguement over a peanutbutter sandwich.  I let my 6 year old make their own peanutbutter sandwich and he was mad.  I had a baby that cried all the time and was holding him, and I supervised my other child:  Put the peanutbutter on the bread, put the jelly on the other side and put them together.  Can a 6 year old be allowed to do this?  Well my punishment was 4 hours of arguing.  On the otherhand:  Jim and Joan's jealousy issue..... my husband is not jealous at all.  We have discussed that for 10 minutes total in 15 years.