Replies to '09/21 Does Age Matter?'

I WILL START OFF WITH SOME COMMENTS I TOOK FROM THIS BOARD.

"he is not a grown man he is a child"

"He's a baby"

"I have a 22 yr old son with a 39 yr old woman and makes me ill to think about it.  To me she is like a child molester,"

"First, she's showing how insecure she is by being with a CHILD!!!"

"There is a woman in her 40' s dating a BOY who just turned 20"

"HE IS A CHILD for God's sake. An 18-yr old male is still a child by any stretch of the imagination. He maybe cannot even recognize that this is wrong but you are a grown woman and should be able to walk away."

"That 18 year old child is just that a child."

"Where are the parents of the child this woman is sleeping with???"

"The fact that a grown woman needs a pimply faced 18 year-old boy"

"Now you have a situation where if she does end this relationship, what's going to happen to this kid?  Is he going to fall into a depression, or keep following a pattern of dating older women? .... He seemed like a very nice kid, and you can't tell a teenager anything, they don't listen."

"The older woman is called a child molester."

Ok, now that I have all that done, I shall argue it.

I am a 20 year old with a 19 year old boyfriend.

None of you are going to be outraged by that, now are you?

I realize that what most of you are angry about is the fact that a 38 year old woman is going out with an 18 year old.  She's more mature, and has more common sense about what this relationship is more than the guy, right.

But is it right to call him a BABY and a CHILD?  It's not child's play when a 20 year old and a 19 year old have sex.  Is it just because it's ok for an 18 year old to have sex as long as it's with an 18 year old girl?

But you don't call an 18 year old a BABY just because he's going out with an older woman.

He's not a baby.  He can vote, smoke, buy lottery tickets, go in adult bookstores, he can even go off in Iraq and die for our country.  And yet he's CLEARY not old enough to make his own decisions!

Some of these comments, I hear some of you basically saying, "this poor CHILD can't possibly think for himself! The poor baby needs a bottle!  At 18, you are equal to an INFANT emotionally!  The poor baby will go into a depression just because the woman is 38!!!"

If he is a baby, then me and my boyfriend are babies.

Funnily enough, though, we don't go around in diapers and we don't play with blocks.

And seriously, I understand that younger adults (like, 18-25 year olds) are not as mature as older adults.  I know that.

And I understand that some of you are mostly mad because  a much older woman is dating this guy who is the youngest age he can be and still legally be with her.

But that's no reason to say things like he's a baby and a child.  He is an adult and he can think for himself.

He doesn't need his mommy and daddy to tell him what to do.

And he's not going to be horrificly scarred from this relationship.

Yeah, it's probably not the best for him, but it's not like he's going to be destroyed by this.  As long as she lets him know that it's for fun, why can't he casually date an older woman just like he would a girl his own age?  He's just experiencing new things.

As long as he doesn't think that the relationship is something it's not, and he just wants to have fun and so does she, then they're allowed to.

Usually guys are not so fragile that one little relationship when he's 18 will destroy his whole life.

This relationship probably isn't the best for this guy, long term wise.  But if both ADULTS just want to have fun and have a fling, I think it's ok for an 18 year old and a 38 year old go out, as long as neither of them are taking advantage of the other.  (just because he's young doesn't mean he's vulnerable and will so easily fall into the clutches of an older woman taking advantage of him)

All I'm saying is that you all act like he's an innocent little lamb that the big bad wolf is about to devour.

A relationship between a guy who is around 18 and a woman who is in her mid-thirties is a good match in some ways...  A guy reaches his sexual peak around his early twenties, a woman reaches her sexual peak around mid-thirties.  .

I WILL START OFF WITH SOME COMMENTS I TOOK FROM THIS BOARD.

"he is not a grown man he is a child"

"He's a baby"

"I have a 22 yr old son with a 39 yr old woman and makes me ill to think about it.  To me she is like a child molester,"

"First, she's showing how insecure she is by being with a CHILD!!!"

"There is a woman in her 40' s dating a BOY who just turned 20"

"HE IS A CHILD for God's sake. An 18-yr old male is still a child by any stretch of the imagination. He maybe cannot even recognize that this is wrong but you are a grown woman and should be able to walk away."

"That 18 year old child is just that a child."

"Where are the parents of the child this woman is sleeping with???"

"The fact that a grown woman needs a pimply faced 18 year-old boy"

"Now you have a situation where if she does end this relationship, what's going to happen to this kid?  Is he going to fall into a depression, or keep following a pattern of dating older women? .... He seemed like a very nice kid, and you can't tell a teenager anything, they don't listen."

"The older woman is called a child molester."

Ok, now that I have all that done, I shall argue it.

I am a 20 year old with a 19 year old boyfriend.

None of you are going to be outraged by that, now are you?

I realize that what most of you are angry about is the fact that a 38 year old woman is going out with an 18 year old.  She's more mature, and has more common sense about what this relationship is more than the guy, right.

But is it right to call him a BABY and a CHILD?  It's not child's play when a 20 year old and a 19 year old have sex.  Is it just because it's ok for an 18 year old to have sex as long as it's with an 18 year old girl?

But you don't call an 18 year old a BABY just because he's going out with an older woman.

He's not a baby.  He can vote, smoke, buy lottery tickets, go in adult bookstores, he can even go off in Iraq and die for our country.  And yet he's CLEARY not old enough to make his own decisions!

Some of these comments, I hear some of you basically saying, "this poor CHILD can't possibly think for himself! The poor baby needs a bottle!  At 18, you are equal to an INFANT emotionally!  The poor baby will go into a depression just because the woman is 38!!!"

If he is a baby, then me and my boyfriend are babies.

Funnily enough, though, we don't go around in diapers and we don't play with blocks.

And seriously, I understand that younger adults (like, 18-25 year olds) are not as mature as older adults.  I know that.

And I understand that some of you are mostly mad because  a much older woman is dating this guy who is the youngest age he can be and still legally be with her.

But that's no reason to say things like he's a baby and a child.  He is an adult and he can think for himself.

He doesn't need his mommy and daddy to tell him what to do.

And he's not going to be horrificly scarred from this relationship.

Yeah, it's probably not the best for him, but it's not like he's going to be destroyed by this.  As long as she lets him know that it's for fun, why can't he casually date an older woman just like he would a girl his own age?  He's just experiencing new things.

As long as he doesn't think that the relationship is something it's not, and he just wants to have fun and so does she, then they're allowed to.

Usually guys are not so fragile that one little relationship when he's 18 will destroy his whole life.

This relationship probably isn't the best for this guy, long term wise.  But if both ADULTS just want to have fun and have a fling, I think it's ok for an 18 year old and a 38 year old go out, as long as neither of them are taking advantage of the other.  (just because he's young doesn't mean he's vulnerable and will so easily fall into the clutches of an older woman taking advantage of him)

All I'm saying is that you all act like he's an innocent little lamb that the big bad wolf is about to devour.

A relationship between a guy who is around 18 and a woman who is in her mid-thirties is a good match in some ways...  A guy reaches his sexual peak around his early twenties, a woman reaches her sexual peak around mid-thirties.  .