Message Boards
Replies to 'When a Family Member Gets Sick'
|
March 4, 2008, 11:53 am PST
 Quote From: myrna47 even though your dad is in the nursing home. he knows that you are there, and holds the time together you have special to him. my dad died several years ago from a farming accident at the age of 79 years old. during the time before his untimely death my husband, his kids, our son, and i lived 1,600 miles away. it was not that i didn't have the funds to visit my dad and mom. but my husband he forbid me to see my dad. when my dad died it was quite a shock. and of course my husband made it looked like he was really concerned all that time! my husband has also passed on six years ago to cancer. there is always something special about a father's love for their daughter and daughters. i would give anything to see my dad again and tell him, how much i loved him. bring him the sweets that he always enjoyed, laugh about silly things that the family pets did. in my case there is no age limit in the parent's children, the loss of a parent hurts. so please take this time and treasure every minute with your dad. at least you have a very understanding husband. may god bless you and your family
As i read your story tears swelled up in my eyes. Our stories are somewhat very similar. This is my story.
I watched my mother for years take care of my grandfather ( her dad) who suffered from severe dementia. She would visit him up to 2-3x a week and tried to nurse him back to health. She gave him everything a person could and more. I often asked myself ..would i sacrafice the same for one of my parents ? I didnt know my answer would come so very soon ( a few months after my grandfathers death ) my mother was diagnoised with advanced breast cancer. She needed to have a mastectomy and start chemo. Months passed Christmas came and went and she was comming u to her last round of chemotherpy. One day i returned home to find my mom not feeling herself and she had a tempature , we took her into the hospital for some tests. Over the next few weeks i watched a heartwreching trasformation : my mother had suffered several strokes. She was now paralyzed on the righ side of her body, she could no longer do daily tasks suck as feed herself or brush her teeth. I put my life on hold and became my moms caregiver. It broke my heart to watch my mom who was weeks ago dancing threw the streets and singing now laying motionless in a hosptial bed. I would read my mom the news paper and books. I would wash her hair and paint her nails..I wanted her to be happy. My mother had swolling complications so she lost a extreme amount of weight..everyday i would bring her vitamin drinks and beg her to drink them. Over the months me and my mom had a new found bound we where never very close we always had a love hate relationship , and now she has become my dearest and most sacred friend.
I could finally answer that question that ran threw my head so many times. I would do anything in the world for my mother..as she did for me for so many years. I dont think of it as paying it foward , more like its the righ thing to do. Even though im still young and have my future ahead of me i put weekends aside for my special mother. When she see's me comming threw those nursing room doors to come bring her home i see the smile ive waitted for all week waitting for me on the other side of the door. I know in my heart my mother is truely happy.
|
|
Return to the Message Board
