Replies to '01/25 Secrets in the Suburbs'

I live in a very upper middle class neighborhood and there are many couples who swing.  Over the past few years I have been shocked to know how many married couples are involved in this kind of activity.

 

I have mixed emotions about it but I KNOW it is not morally the right thing to do but we have friends who participate.

I believe that if a couple has the intamacy that they need in their relationship that they wouldn't have to go outside looking for other partners. I think that this is what happens when sex becomes about the act itself rather than the love and and just plain joy of being together as one.

If everyone is happy doing it (and I doubt they all are very happy) then fine, just keep it to yourself. I dont know anyone that is a cheater or swinger, I would stop knowing them if they brought it up.  People are welcome to do what they want as long as it doesnt hurt anyone. I dont have to hear about it and I dont want to hear the justifications or defenses for doing it.  I dont understand and that is fine, I dont want to either.  Some people are greedy and think they are so sexual and need sex or are willing to corrupt their marriages or at least the promises they made so they can have "pleasure" with anyone they want... well they have no business being married and I feel they are selfish and have lose morals and very low standards. I really have zero respect for someone that would have sex with someone they dont know, love, share a life with and I am entitled to my feelings, and beliefs.  It all is just nasty, what some are willing to do just to have an orgasm. bleh!.... How many of those people are even pretty or handsome, from what I saw, not many at all, yuk...

Hi you wanted to know how people live this lifestyle when they have Children well let me tell you I am a swinger i am happly married and my hubby and i do this while the children are not around either we will go to the others home or we do it while the children are at a sleep over maybe you should look into to it instead of judging there is thought

I mean no disrespect but that was one man and the "lifestyle" didn't make him the jerk... He was already that way before hand.  I don't think that swinging is a personality disorder. 

 

People need to stop putting blame on events or things in life and take responsibility for their own actions.

 

What your ex brother in law did was wrong but one can't blame it on other people.

 

There are men that beat their wives.. who do you blame?

 

There are men that gamble their life savings away... who do you blame?

 

There are men that love to have sex with other men... who do you blame? Is this a fault? lol I don't think so but a lot of other close minded people probably do.

 

You should be looking at his character instead of what his sexual preferences were. It's not the fault of the lifestyle it's the man himself.