However people validate their sexual lusting its nothing more than creative self delusion at best. Most people were brought up to believe that sex is a gift to be shared between a husband and his wife. To share it with others devalues the act into something that has lost its beauty. It's no longer special.
"...keep thee only unto him/her"? There's a reason that line is in there.
I'm curious. Without being crude, can you tell me, do you, as the man, share yourself with other men? Or is it only other women? Does it bother you that he may please her more than you can? Do you ever fear that she may find herself yearning for him and not you? Is it possible that she may have these same fears about you? Are you sure?
I know of a couple who tried a threesome with a female friend. Later, because of the implied freedom , the husband enjoyed an oral sex act with another female in the kiddy's wading pool, unknown to his wife, while she entertained friends in the living room. When he was caught in the act her anger genuinely surprised him. Their marriage went downhill after that. Hearts were broken, trust was lost, the kids lost their father, the family unit disintegrated.
I can't say that this will happen to everyone who plays this game, (and it is a game) but the chance of keeping the trust alive in the marriage is not good. Once that line is crossed and either one has sex with someone else without the other partner's permission or knowledge, the marriage is over. And, that WILL happen sooner or later. The 'implied' sexual freedom is too hard to resist.
No matter how good you think your marriage bond is now, under the surface lies a subconscious fear that 'she' or 'he' will never be able to satisfy the other's sexual needs. This opens up another can of worms that you will never again be able to put the lid on . As they say, "curiosity killed the cat". And, anyone curious enough to want to play this game should first consider if its worth losing the ones you love.
There's also the dangers involved. What dangers you ask? It is well known that multiple partners increase a women's chances of getting cervical cancer. Also, there's the increased chances of STD's, not to mention the danger of 'romantic attachments' being formed which can lead to stalking or worse.
You may think your relationship is on solid ground, (and, it may be) but what about the possibility of emotional illnesses in the people you engage in this game with? Can you guarantee their mental stability? A lack of emotional/mental well-being can and will endanger you or/and your wife? (Heaven forbid anything should happen to the children!!!)
It has been estimated that 1 in 25 people is a sociopath/psychopath. These individuals have no conscience. They can blend into society and go unnoticed like a camelian. They will go to extreme lengths to get what they want, not caring who they hurt. That attractive blond, that muscular beefcake, both can make anyone lust after them. But, add mental illness and a fixation for the husband (or the wife) and you may wake one night to find muscle man looming over you as you sleep with malicious intent. Check out the info on this link to see if you may know a sociopathic person: http://www.takebackyourheart.com/
I believe poor Renee (THE FOCUS OF THIS SUBJECT) might be married to a sociopath/psychopath. Brent does not appear to feel the compassion necessary to insure a happy marriage and is only concerned for his own desires. Renee should seek self awareness to understand why she feels it necessary to forgo her own happiness for that of her selfish, self serving husband. Only then will she find the strength to stand up for herself.
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