Quote From: jaimie1974I agree with your husband, dont confront your son about the contents of his diary- his diary is a place for your son to write down things that he cant share with anyone in his life. It is personal and private, knowing that his mother read it could really change his life; and I dont mean in a good way.
Your son is only 16! If he is fantasizing about being a dean at a college or any other profession, it is simply that- a fantasy. Getting so upset about this is a waste of energy and time. What if he wants to be both a Dr. and a professor of some kind? Could happen!
The whole sex thing- yes, that would totally gross me out too. Where is he getting those ideas? The internet is probably the number one source; second behind that is porn. When teens get together, they might swear up and down they dont look at porn, but they do. My advice would be to have your husband have a talk to him about sex and porn, and how the two differ.
I agree too, don't confront your son with this or you will lose so much trust. He will end up talking to you about anything as he wil see you as violatng his privacy.He might close you out and you might end up sorry for looking in the first place. It made me sad to read you want your son to forfull (your planned and map out life) you have for him. Children are not ours to keep, we are to love and guide them, not plan them as they turn into young adults themseves. They are not robots we put batteries in and make them walk to he sound of our own drum.
What he fantasizing about girls is *such* a private, private thing. 16 these days is the new 18. Kids mature at a much younger age than what they did in our days. What ever your son choses to do, you should be thankful that he doesnt want to sit aound and just do nothing or worse, end up with some criminal record. Appreciate him and guide him with love not expectancy.
