Replies to 'The Meaning of "Family"'

I am guessing by your message that your parents are divorced. I say that because my parents are also divorced and using the other parent against one another can be painful, and attacking her personally makes her feel bad about her self. Something we sometimes forget is that moms are people too, they have feelings and they value what their children think of them.Also, we all say things at times we don't mean out of anger or being upset. The most important lesson for you to learn from this is that your mom cares for you , loves you. And no matter what you may be feeling at the time you get upset she has your best interest in mind. It's a mother's job to take care of and protect her child. Also, I can remember the excitement of getting my license and a car. Now looking back I realize how young I really was. Maybe your mom is scared for you to drive or maybe she has another good reason for wanting you to wait. I think the best thing would be to tell her you are sorry and talk to her about the problem without yelling. The older I become the more I realize the truth your mom really is your best friend. Not everyone has the kind of mom that cares...don't loose that. Just tell her you are sorry, make her a card or something sweet . Most of all mean it with all your heart. I wish you the best ... remember you have the rest of your life to drive a car, but only one mom. :)

Kim

Dear Alex,

Did yuor mother give you reasons why you can't have the car? If she did what were they? And is it a good reason? Think about it.  When my son was 16 years old and said that he was going to by a car. And his father and g/f decides that they were going to give him 3,000.00 dollars if he graduate high school to by a car. Well let me tell you something I sat my hard headed son down and had a long talk with him about the responsibility of owning a car then I tolld him about the bills i have every month and how much money I make and that i couldn't afford to help him pay for insurance for his car and if his car needed repairs I wouldn't be of help to him and so on . Then I went into the accidents that we were hearing everyday that some teenager who thought they knew everything was drunk and drove into a family of 4 and killed them.

I'm for the group MADD and I try to model it to my children. I am the dd2 for my friends. 

Let me tell you something, Did you know that insurance for someone your age is the highest, and who is going to make the payments(YOU?) or mom and dad. Think about the risks of road accidents among teens and if you are a responsible person or do you just want to have a car to go cruzin. Think about it and then go to your mom with the homework you come up with and sit together and discuss what the options are and how you will help with bills and keeping the car contained and how you are going to be responsible for your actions.

Let me tell you another story this one doesn't have a happy ending. My neice was riding around in a friends car that had 7 people in it and his licence was taking away for speeding. His mom took his keys away but 2 days later gave it back to him because he was grumbling about how unfair his mom is and stuff so the mom gave him the keys to the car and guess what,  Well he was speeding, hit a trian track flew in the air and crashed into a tree, headon My neice and one other kid died that morning. she was 16 years old. I helped raise her until they moved to florida and at one time she wanted to live with me because i raised her brother. and now we all regret our decisions that we mad.

Think about all the things that can happen and talk it over with mom calmly. eccept that mom will get upset but don't react to her upsetness.