Quote From: mucholocaMy kids have been in foster care since oct 2004. I never abused or neglected my kids. They where placed in care because i was in a abusive marriage. I am doing all my court orders but the system is so hard on parents, iam afraied i will never get my kids back.
If you are in a repetative abusive situation, the state fears the children are put in danger. At what point will the abuse turn towards the children. Will the children be running and laughing causing a parent to get angry and go off the deep end? Will they get a bad grade thus a punishment be considered cruel and unusual?
The state takes the children away because the danger and threat is still apparent. Until the that threat is removed and you can prove you are protecting and have the children's safety and best interest in mind, the children will not be returned.
I grew up with 2 foster sisters because the mother refused to leave the man who abused her children. Someone had to leave and she wouldn't make him -thus the children were removed instead.
Use this period to build up the strength to correct the abusive relationship. If you want your children back, you have to get out.
