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October 12, 2007, 8:28 am PDT
 Quote From: joshuatree48 I graduated high school in 1976. This stuff just didn't happen then. It was unheard of. I believe the reason kids are going "ballistic" these days is simple. Just like drugs, they have access to things we never had. Guns, knives, drugs, alcohol, violent video games - - its all around them. I think the only solution to tame these out of control kids is to crack down big time. Parents give into their whims because their children's friends have it all. They feel guilty if they dont provide them with the latest, newest thing. I lived without a cell phone and I'm doing just fine. Parents are handing children things they should not have access too. And what their parents won't give them, they can find easily on the streets. I say go back to uniforms in school, no driving off campus for lunch, bring back curfews that are reasonable, and the list can go on and on. We need to turn to the past way of life in order to control the future. Morals are out the window. Kids are depressed because they don't have every single thing their peers had. They EXPECT a car for their 16th birthday. Out the window is the notion they need to work to earn it. It's a sad day. I was the most "uncool" mom on earth, divorced and left to raise 2 girls on my own with no child support from their dad who could not be located. My girls were PO'd, would occasionally say "I hate you," etc., when I said no. But now I have my oldest in medical school and my youngest is married and has a baby on the way with a wonderful husband. Now they thank me for saying no. Some of their friends didn't fare so well with their lives, the one's who had it all. Lets get back to basics. That's what it's going to take. I absolutely agree with you!! The kids I see who are out of control and expecting everyone to meet their every needs are the poor kids whose parents needed to be their friends! Their parents could not and did not say no, they condoned and abetted underage drinking and wild behaviour and blamed others when things went wrong for their kids. Kids need to learn how to govern themselves, need to learn respect and empathy for others and need consequences for their behaviour. I was a single parent with three children, working poor, I remarried and we had another child, all our children were required to be accountable and made pretty uncomfortable when they did not do so. All our kids have or are working on degrees., we are close to them and love and respect them. Recently I said to one of our sons, a teacher, I guess we could have been a bit kinder and gentler when you guys were young, I sometimes wish we had used other methods. He said mum I intend to raise my kids like you raised me, it kept me honest and I always knew I could count on you to give me the straight goods. So don't be afraid to take the lead parents, your kids are crying out for your attention! |
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October 12, 2007, 9:01 am PDT
Quote From: joshuatree48 I graduated high school in 1976. This stuff just didn't happen then. It was unheard of. I believe the reason kids are going "ballistic" these days is simple. Just like drugs, they have access to things we never had. Guns, knives, drugs, alcohol, violent video games - - its all around them. I think the only solution to tame these out of control kids is to crack down big time. Parents give into their whims because their children's friends have it all. They feel guilty if they dont provide them with the latest, newest thing. I lived without a cell phone and I'm doing just fine. Parents are handing children things they should not have access too. And what their parents won't give them, they can find easily on the streets. I say go back to uniforms in school, no driving off campus for lunch, bring back curfews that are reasonable, and the list can go on and on. We need to turn to the past way of life in order to control the future. Morals are out the window. Kids are depressed because they don't have every single thing their peers had. They EXPECT a car for their 16th birthday. Out the window is the notion they need to work to earn it. It's a sad day. I was the most "uncool" mom on earth, divorced and left to raise 2 girls on my own with no child support from their dad who could not be located. My girls were PO'd, would occasionally say "I hate you," etc., when I said no. But now I have my oldest in medical school and my youngest is married and has a baby on the way with a wonderful husband. Now they thank me for saying no. Some of their friends didn't fare so well with their lives, the one's who had it all. Lets get back to basics. That's what it's going to take. Your are so right. Parents give into their kids too readily. You see it in some place like Wal-Mart, even if it is near Christmas. Kids are screaming to get a toy and the parents give in. So they are taught all they have to do is pitch a fit or try to embarass their parent in a store and they get their way. And they spend hundreds of dollars on those ridiculous video games machines with the expensive games. The kids are inside all the time playing the games and not outside playing and using their imagination and expending some of their energy. The parents use the games as a tyype of livein babysitter. The child is out of their hair ;what do they care? On top of no outlet for their natural energies, they are getting obese, right aloing with their parents. Maybe if time went back to when moms and dads took time to go outside together and play and interact, the children would get the feeling that somebody cared. And don't give me that "I work and I don't have time." This is your child. Take time. We did with our daughter and my husband and I both worked full time. The memories will be around long after the video machine has been dumped in the trash. |
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