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October 13, 2007, 2:14 pm PDT

Suing for love

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Go for it.  Sue them for all you can get.  I think that when a partner cheats on you that they should be sued for all you can get.  It is a form of revenge but can sure help to heal the pain.  I have been there before and I know that you have to expose them, and then go for the wallet. 

 

Well i,m not so sure about suing, but i have come to believe that exposing a person for what they have intentionally done , or rather getting even is,nt such a bad thing.

 

Relating this to myself, because ive been there done that and taken revenge on an ex, it did help to make me feel better and it did help speed up the healing process.

 

The ex saw me as vindictive and frankly i dont care, all i wanted was to cause them the same sort of pain or whatever thay they caused me for their manipulation, deceit, lies and cheating.

 

I think Dr Phil calls it mir or minimal emotional response. I call it karma.
 
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October 14, 2007, 5:58 pm PDT

10/18 Suing for Love

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Go for it.  Sue them for all you can get.  I think that when a partner cheats on you that they should be sued for all you can get.  It is a form of revenge but can sure help to heal the pain.  I have been there before and I know that you have to expose them, and then go for the wallet. 

That is kind of petty I bet you would sue more than one guy if you could. What good does it do. The fact remains that he still isnt with you and you still have to deal with that. So getting revenge doesnt help heal the pain. GETTING OVER IT does. Move on. I have absolute proof that when you move on what goes around comes around. He will meet his match one day and even though you arent around to see it, you will hear about it. It happened when my man and I broke up. I was devastated, thought I would never get over it. But I did and not only that I hear he is in a miserable marriage, his health is failing, Im 8 years older than he is and he looks 20 years older than me. He doesnt trust his wife and she wants to take him to the poor house. All this just months after he broke up with me. So you have to have a lot of hatred in your heart to think that suing them is gonna make you happy. It will make you just as miserable as they are. Not counting the court cost.  I cant think of one lawyer who will work for nothing in hopes of winning a case like that.
 
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October 19, 2007, 7:08 am PDT

Suing for love

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Go for it.  Sue them for all you can get.  I think that when a partner cheats on you that they should be sued for all you can get.  It is a form of revenge but can sure help to heal the pain.  I have been there before and I know that you have to expose them, and then go for the wallet. 

Yes, you should be able to sue a mistress, this will stop so many infidelities and divorces.
 
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October 19, 2007, 7:51 pm PDT

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Go for it.  Sue them for all you can get.  I think that when a partner cheats on you that they should be sued for all you can get.  It is a form of revenge but can sure help to heal the pain.  I have been there before and I know that you have to expose them, and then go for the wallet. 

What?  I don't understand what you're trying to say.
 
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October 20, 2007, 3:55 am PDT

what?

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Go for it.  Sue them for all you can get.  I think that when a partner cheats on you that they should be sued for all you can get.  It is a form of revenge but can sure help to heal the pain.  I have been there before and I know that you have to expose them, and then go for the wallet. 

This show wasn't about suing your PARTNER. It was about suing the person that your partner found and cheated on you with, whether or not your partner made that person aware that they were already married. I think it's ridiculous to say that you should be able to sue the "other woman" or the "other man." Why on earth should they be held financially responsible for the divorce?? A divorce occurs between a husband and wife and that's it. If one of them strays, that person and that person alone is responsible. I don't care what kind of tramp homewrecker tries to put the moves on my husband, if he cheats, it's HIS choice to cheat and no one else's. Unless she literally kidnaps him, drugs him, and then has her way with him (and that situation would be a whole other legal ballgame...), there's no excuse that just because a woman comes on to a man that she's responsible if he cheats on his wife. HE is responsible.

And especially if she was unaware at the beginning that he was married, how in any way is that her fault? There was obviously a problem with the marriage before she ever came into the picture and the man certainly had infidelity issues. The wife is seeking revenge and because her husband came back to her, rather than blaming him (because she's desperate to have him back), she needs some sort of outlet, some sort of scapegoat to vent her anger about what happened within her own marriage (which she's now sweeping under the table and completely ignoring by targeting the other woman). It's insane that this woman could get away with this. Put the responsibility on your husband whom you stupidly took back, not on the woman that was lied to as well.
 
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October 20, 2007, 12:09 pm PDT

SUING THE CHEATING SPOUSE' LOVER?

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Go for it.  Sue them for all you can get.  I think that when a partner cheats on you that they should be sued for all you can get.  It is a form of revenge but can sure help to heal the pain.  I have been there before and I know that you have to expose them, and then go for the wallet. 

These Alienation of Affection laws whereby the cheating spouse's lover is sued for  monetary compensation -- are ridiculous! The problem is not the their "lover." The problem is the cheating spouse whose is the  only "home-wreaker."    No one can alienate anyone affections, unless they're are already alienated from their spouse, or by their spouse.  This like blaming the "Crack Dealer" for someone addiction! As far as I know, no one can be made to do anything -- they didn't want to do in the first place.    
 
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June 6, 2008, 8:51 am PDT

06/06 Suing for Love

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Go for it.  Sue them for all you can get.  I think that when a partner cheats on you that they should be sued for all you can get.  It is a form of revenge but can sure help to heal the pain.  I have been there before and I know that you have to expose them, and then go for the wallet. 

Your hate will eat you alive. I feel sorry for you.
 
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August 30, 2009, 3:01 pm PDT

Suing for Love

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Go for it.  Sue them for all you can get.  I think that when a partner cheats on you that they should be sued for all you can get.  It is a form of revenge but can sure help to heal the pain.  I have been there before and I know that you have to expose them, and then go for the wallet. 

Your partner or former partner I believe has an obligation to tell the third party of their marital status. If the thrid party is willing to take a chance at being sued then so be it. If they lied to the third party regarding their marital status then the partner should take full responsibility of their actions. 
 
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