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October 14, 2007, 6:09 pm PDT

WHY BLAME THE WOMAN ONLY

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In Sept 2005, my  husband of 25 yrs literally walked out on our marriage, quit his job and went to live with his first wife in Tx, we had a home in Alabama..It has since been forclosed on yet he built  a new home for the two of them. I actually had no idea he was even thinking of leaving me!!! Talk about feeling as if I'd been hit in the gut with a baseball, I sure did. He's the one that walked out and all I've been able to do with my frustrations is to yell at him over the phone. He even refused to come help me get our house ready to sell, saying he didn't want to see me..it's my 6'3 son he doesn't want to see, or the grandchildren as he can't face them and the hurt in their eyes.

The reason I'm considering suing her is that she has been going behind my back and sending him letters saying she has and will always love him, although she kicked him out twice for a married man, years ago, and eventually married the other man. They were divorced a few yrs ago and she decided she wanted jim back and her daughters were helping her!! I know jim is the one that made the choice but she had no right to interfer in our marriage, she divorced jim twice, archie was a  married man and she broke up his marriage, now she's divorced him and pulled jim back..so she needs to learn to have common decency to

YOU SAY THAT SHE NEEDS TO LEARN SOME DECENCY? WHAT ABOUT HIM?  YOU SAY  THAT SHE BROKE UP A MARRIAGE..SHE DIDNT BREAK IT ...THEY DID...IT NEVER LIES WITH JUST ONE PERSON IT TAKES TWO REMEMBER..UNLESS HE SPENT TIME IN BED WITH HIMSELF. YOU CANT JUST SAY THE OTHER WOMAN (OR MAN FOR THAT MATTER) BROKE UP THE MARRIAGE. MAYBE IT WAS SOMETHING YOU WERENT DOING THAT MADE HIM OR HER STRAY IN THE FIRST PLACE.  HEY IF YOU LOOK AT IT THERE ARE THREE PEOPLE WHO ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR DESTROYING A MARRIAGE..YOU, HIM AND THE OTHER WOMAN(OR MAN).

 

P.S. NO I HAVE NEVER BEEN THE OTHER WOMAN. I HAVE HAD A COUPLE OF MEN WHO DOWNRIGHT LIED TO ME AND SAID THEY WERE NOT MARRIED OR THEIR WIFE HAD DIED....YEAH RIGHT...AND YES AFTER CHECKING OUT EVERYTHING HE TOLD ME ABOUT HIMSELF, I GOT A MAN!!!
 
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October 19, 2007, 6:38 am PDT

Since when isn't your Husband Responsible?!

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In Sept 2005, my  husband of 25 yrs literally walked out on our marriage, quit his job and went to live with his first wife in Tx, we had a home in Alabama..It has since been forclosed on yet he built  a new home for the two of them. I actually had no idea he was even thinking of leaving me!!! Talk about feeling as if I'd been hit in the gut with a baseball, I sure did. He's the one that walked out and all I've been able to do with my frustrations is to yell at him over the phone. He even refused to come help me get our house ready to sell, saying he didn't want to see me..it's my 6'3 son he doesn't want to see, or the grandchildren as he can't face them and the hurt in their eyes.

The reason I'm considering suing her is that she has been going behind my back and sending him letters saying she has and will always love him, although she kicked him out twice for a married man, years ago, and eventually married the other man. They were divorced a few yrs ago and she decided she wanted jim back and her daughters were helping her!! I know jim is the one that made the choice but she had no right to interfer in our marriage, she divorced jim twice, archie was a  married man and she broke up his marriage, now she's divorced him and pulled jim back..so she needs to learn to have common decency to

Sue his first wife?  What the hell is wrong with you, Lady?  Since when isn't your husband responsible for his OWN actions?  He left you and I'm sorry but thats not HER fault.  She doesn't owe you anything, she has no loyalty to you...why should she be responsible?  Shes not the one who is committed to someone else!  Sure, she might have emailed your husband behind your back..but guess what...HE EMAILED HER BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Sueing the lover is crap.  I've been cheated on before.  Not once did I blame her!  She knew about me..she believed his lies that our relationship was banging on the rocks.  It doesnt' matter what she told him.  He was the one in the relationship, not her!!! 

 

I understand.  You don't really want to blame the responsible party...so you blame the other woman...who is most often referred to as a "Wh*re"  Shes not!  Your husband/boyfriend/S.O is!  Even if she repeatedly calls after he broke it off with her....guess what again, open your eyes!!! She wouldn't be calling him if he wasn't encouraging it in some way! 

 
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October 20, 2007, 3:30 pm PDT

why do men? more pertains to monday's show coming up

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In Sept 2005, my  husband of 25 yrs literally walked out on our marriage, quit his job and went to live with his first wife in Tx, we had a home in Alabama..It has since been forclosed on yet he built  a new home for the two of them. I actually had no idea he was even thinking of leaving me!!! Talk about feeling as if I'd been hit in the gut with a baseball, I sure did. He's the one that walked out and all I've been able to do with my frustrations is to yell at him over the phone. He even refused to come help me get our house ready to sell, saying he didn't want to see me..it's my 6'3 son he doesn't want to see, or the grandchildren as he can't face them and the hurt in their eyes.

The reason I'm considering suing her is that she has been going behind my back and sending him letters saying she has and will always love him, although she kicked him out twice for a married man, years ago, and eventually married the other man. They were divorced a few yrs ago and she decided she wanted jim back and her daughters were helping her!! I know jim is the one that made the choice but she had no right to interfer in our marriage, she divorced jim twice, archie was a  married man and she broke up his marriage, now she's divorced him and pulled jim back..so she needs to learn to have common decency to

Why do men get to divorce and leave the woman holding the bag?  it's such injustice that you can marry someone, raise the children while they further themselves professionally and then when it's close to paying off for you both - they leave you for a girl barely out of highschool- and suddenly you are poor with children you can no longer provide adequately for and looking for a job in which you are going to be paid the same as a teenager because you are being punished for being out of the workforce - where are the men? where are real men? that are committed to doing the "right" thing for their wives and children? and if you are angry about your circumstances, well then you are the bitter "old" ex wife hanging on to resentment? and child support, as if there aren't a thousand ways that men lie about their income and hide income so that they don't have to support their children - UGH - i hate men!!!!
 
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October 20, 2007, 7:56 pm PDT

You should be ashamed

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In Sept 2005, my  husband of 25 yrs literally walked out on our marriage, quit his job and went to live with his first wife in Tx, we had a home in Alabama..It has since been forclosed on yet he built  a new home for the two of them. I actually had no idea he was even thinking of leaving me!!! Talk about feeling as if I'd been hit in the gut with a baseball, I sure did. He's the one that walked out and all I've been able to do with my frustrations is to yell at him over the phone. He even refused to come help me get our house ready to sell, saying he didn't want to see me..it's my 6'3 son he doesn't want to see, or the grandchildren as he can't face them and the hurt in their eyes.

The reason I'm considering suing her is that she has been going behind my back and sending him letters saying she has and will always love him, although she kicked him out twice for a married man, years ago, and eventually married the other man. They were divorced a few yrs ago and she decided she wanted jim back and her daughters were helping her!! I know jim is the one that made the choice but she had no right to interfer in our marriage, she divorced jim twice, archie was a  married man and she broke up his marriage, now she's divorced him and pulled jim back..so she needs to learn to have common decency to

You should be ashamed for even thinking about suing her. Jim made the committment to you not her. You said that she went behind your back to write him letters....SO!!!!! She owes you nothing. He took those vows with you. She has no obligation what-so-ever to help you keep control of your husband. He is a grown man and he can make his own decisions. If he is weak enough to allow someone else to come between your relationship with him he isnt a real man anyway and you should want him back at all. Now your character is in question. You should be thankful that she took him off your hands because if it wasnt her it was going to be someone else......You can't sue someone because they don't love you anymore.
 
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