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December 14, 2007, 1:07 pm PST
Colin
Quote From: momakababeYou cannot make anyone do anything and Amber cannot make Colin seek help never mind make him take the help. If they're at the point where they're coming on *national television* to see "is this normal?" then to me it means that Colin does not want to seek help. If he fly's off the handle and doesn't see that as a problem & the *idea that he might lose Amber* doesn't make him seek help then he *doesn't want to* or he just doesn't care. If he loved her enough and didn't want to see her hurt he would have sought help long ago to get his problem under control. Actions speak much louder than words and his inaction says he *does not care*. You cannot love someone & *not care*. Watching the show was very interesting, as my husband is the same way. We have been married for almost 20 years have four children together. I recognized this before we were married, but put it to the back not listening to my intuition. He can be a wonderful person and I know he loves me, but he can't change unless they want to. Living with someone like that is like walking on egg shells. You are always waiting to "fall through". Not good for stress. It has made me physcially ill for 6 years (diagnosed with MS intially but had at least 10 other symptoms). I have just admitted to the problem over the past year and it is hard to unstuff it. all. He is still in denial and won't go for help. Have been to marriage counseling but still won't admit the problem. Will say that he is wrong but won't get help. Think hard before you act. It is much harder to get out of a situation when it is more long term. Truly listen to your gut and follow it-it won't let you down. It is there for a reason.
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