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October 11, 2005, 10:51 am PDT
Things That Worked For Us
Quote From: ssheri5Hi,
I am full time working mom with a 5 year old daughter and 13 year old daughter. My 5 year old has been giving us stress. She is good at school and for the most part good at daycare. She is horrible for my husband and I. She refuses to listen, mean, bossy, and has continuous tantrums. I feel she may be angry, not sure, why. Anyway, we have tried everything timeout, taking away fun things, ignoring her (may not be consistent and I know i have to). I am at wits end. Tried spanking her on the bottom and feel terrible. I want to find other ways to resolve her issues. I hate picking her up from daycare not knowing who she is going to be, nice kid or the mean kid. HELP!!!! I know where you are coming from. I have a 5yr.old son, a 4 yr old daughter, 1yr. old twins, and one on the way. My daughter who is four has been giving us grief since she waws two. She is very smart, very independent, wonderful at school and while playing with friends, but when she gets home around me shw loses her mind sometimes. I dread the days where she is not in a good mood. I use d to think it was because of her diet or some other reason why she would be so bad with me. She does need alot of sleep and if she doesn't get it she can have a tantrum over anything. But I also realized that it is me. I have a lot to do with how she behaves or more importantly how she reacts to things. If I get upset about something, she starts doing her thing. If I respond in a more appropriate tone and use better body language she takes the discipline better and then knows that she can get more positve attention if she just listens and doesn't get upset. I am still working on being consistent, because there are days when I want to just scream! But I need to do something now and get her under control before she becomes a teenager and it gets much harder. Please know you are not alone and just keep trying different things and you'll find which works best for you.
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