Replies to '10/17 Sexual Predators?'
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October 17, 2007, 9:28 am PDT
 Quote From: starwolf Sadly for some children, the family never listens to them, as no one wants to believe that it would happen, or that it is very real. If the child tells, then they get punished, but not the one that did it. No matter what they say or do, they are the ones considered no good, and what the other person did is covered up. The subject is closed as far as the family is concerned, but not the child, and years later, that child within the now adult does feel for those that go through this. Sexual Predators are very sick people, and children need the protection adults can give, if they are willing. You would be surprised how many adults will turn a blind eye. I know it is not an easy path for a child if the family is not there for them, but it is a big help for those that have family that stand by them. Some predators are not caught, no matter how much you may try to get others to listen. Some stand by the predator. Sometimes I wonder why anyone would stand by the predator and the victim is no longer family to them. Everyone is different, and we all choose our own path in the end. I hope more children that go through this are capable of becoming adults that do have a good healthy relationship, and not go the path many choose of drugs, alcohol etc. A child is vunerable and needs the family more than ever at these times. They need to know they are still loved and not an outcast in their own family. I feel more predators are being caught today and that is something long over due. I have been there and really feel for those children that go through anything similar or worse. It is a difficult thing to live with, and yet you do. I moved forward in my life, but have met many that did not. This is a show I plan to watch! Agree with you on this. Some children will never tell because they fear they will not be believed. For those parents/families that want to 'shove it under the carpet' for fear of humiliation, I have to say those people are also sick. When some try to be overly friendly and helpful and offer to take out your kids and such, WATCH those people closely. You can spot the signs if you are aware enough.
I also know of a 14/15 yr old girl that once said to me and I quote, " I wish dad would have sexually abused me as a child or would now, then I'd have more power." What daughter could EVER say something as horrible and despicable as that? I am all for children speaking up and they MUST tell someone they can trust. But for those children that can say something like THIS, that may use this to get back at their fathers (or mothers), I feel they are on the wrong path and dangerous to be around also, maybe they could be a predator at a later stage. Isn't there something drastically wrong when someone can say this? To me, that was a very disturbing thing to say that can't be ignored either. I would like anyone to comment on this. Why would and HOW could someone say such a dreadful thing? What sexual predators do is unforgiveable and they need euthanising, never let them out, they can't be re-habilitated, but it is also unforgiveable to not only say this, but make such accusations or try to mislead someone into thinking someone did something. I think porn plays a big part and is an enabler as well as many other factors. |
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October 17, 2007, 10:17 am PDT
Quote From: starwolf Sadly for some children, the family never listens to them, as no one wants to believe that it would happen, or that it is very real. If the child tells, then they get punished, but not the one that did it. No matter what they say or do, they are the ones considered no good, and what the other person did is covered up. The subject is closed as far as the family is concerned, but not the child, and years later, that child within the now adult does feel for those that go through this. Sexual Predators are very sick people, and children need the protection adults can give, if they are willing. You would be surprised how many adults will turn a blind eye. I know it is not an easy path for a child if the family is not there for them, but it is a big help for those that have family that stand by them. Some predators are not caught, no matter how much you may try to get others to listen. Some stand by the predator. Sometimes I wonder why anyone would stand by the predator and the victim is no longer family to them. Everyone is different, and we all choose our own path in the end. I hope more children that go through this are capable of becoming adults that do have a good healthy relationship, and not go the path many choose of drugs, alcohol etc. A child is vunerable and needs the family more than ever at these times. They need to know they are still loved and not an outcast in their own family. I feel more predators are being caught today and that is something long over due. I have been there and really feel for those children that go through anything similar or worse. It is a difficult thing to live with, and yet you do. I moved forward in my life, but have met many that did not. This is a show I plan to watch! I'm sorry you went through what you did and I'm so very glad you have moved forward with your life. I will also be watching the show and will tell all my children to watch it as it will impact my grandchildren. |
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October 18, 2007, 4:38 am PDT
Quote From: starwolf Sadly for some children, the family never listens to them, as no one wants to believe that it would happen, or that it is very real. If the child tells, then they get punished, but not the one that did it. No matter what they say or do, they are the ones considered no good, and what the other person did is covered up. The subject is closed as far as the family is concerned, but not the child, and years later, that child within the now adult does feel for those that go through this. Sexual Predators are very sick people, and children need the protection adults can give, if they are willing. You would be surprised how many adults will turn a blind eye. I know it is not an easy path for a child if the family is not there for them, but it is a big help for those that have family that stand by them. Some predators are not caught, no matter how much you may try to get others to listen. Some stand by the predator. Sometimes I wonder why anyone would stand by the predator and the victim is no longer family to them. Everyone is different, and we all choose our own path in the end. I hope more children that go through this are capable of becoming adults that do have a good healthy relationship, and not go the path many choose of drugs, alcohol etc. A child is vunerable and needs the family more than ever at these times. They need to know they are still loved and not an outcast in their own family. I feel more predators are being caught today and that is something long over due. I have been there and really feel for those children that go through anything similar or worse. It is a difficult thing to live with, and yet you do. I moved forward in my life, but have met many that did not. This is a show I plan to watch! I'm 62. The abuse was from two cousins, my father's friend, and a stranger in town when my grandfather left me (five years old) to walk home alone. I haven't told yet. I'm waiting until my mother passes. She's 85 now. She would blame herself if she knew. Back when it was going on, society didn't talk about such things. I grew up in confusion and sadness and knowing I wasn't protected. As Dr. Phil says, "They wrote on the slate of who you are." I'm trying to erase it. How? I've been married and divorced twice and am remarried to number two. He loves me. I'm trying to love me. I'm still wondering what love really is. I've got a degree in education, but I also have an anger problem. I substituted and found that I couldn't deal with challenges in the classroom. I may know all about grammar and how to teach writing, but I've been so afraid that there would be one bad episode in the classroom that would wipe it all away and send me home, so I never tried. I've never seen myself as a whole person--more like an irregular, like a cheaper version of the real thing. I hope this makes sense. Last night Dr. Phil was sitting in for Larry King. He interviewed a young lady who had made a movie (film) about child sexual abuse. She herself is a survivor. She literally knocke on doors, asking women about their childhoods. She found that 70% of grown women had been the victims of sexual or physical abuse. So, what does that say? We are certainly not alone. We all can help one another and I think she's done something good for herself and all the rest of us. God bless her and may God bless us all. |
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October 19, 2007, 5:23 am PDT
Quote From: starwolf Sadly for some children, the family never listens to them, as no one wants to believe that it would happen, or that it is very real. If the child tells, then they get punished, but not the one that did it. No matter what they say or do, they are the ones considered no good, and what the other person did is covered up. The subject is closed as far as the family is concerned, but not the child, and years later, that child within the now adult does feel for those that go through this. Sexual Predators are very sick people, and children need the protection adults can give, if they are willing. You would be surprised how many adults will turn a blind eye. I know it is not an easy path for a child if the family is not there for them, but it is a big help for those that have family that stand by them. Some predators are not caught, no matter how much you may try to get others to listen. Some stand by the predator. Sometimes I wonder why anyone would stand by the predator and the victim is no longer family to them. Everyone is different, and we all choose our own path in the end. I hope more children that go through this are capable of becoming adults that do have a good healthy relationship, and not go the path many choose of drugs, alcohol etc. A child is vunerable and needs the family more than ever at these times. They need to know they are still loved and not an outcast in their own family. I feel more predators are being caught today and that is something long over due. I have been there and really feel for those children that go through anything similar or worse. It is a difficult thing to live with, and yet you do. I moved forward in my life, but have met many that did not. This is a show I plan to watch! I would have to say that being a victim myself of child sexual abuse I have to agree with you... I too was a young child when it happened to me and although I can not remember just how long it went on for I still can not forget it... I was only 7. My parents let someone with their girlfriend stay on our couch. I never said anything about it to anyone until I was a teenager living away from my mom. I wrote her a letter about and she responded back but that is the time that the step mom decided she wanted to read the letter. I was then asked questions about it and she basically did not believe me that it happened. But she however did not remember that sometime shortly after these two people stayed on the couch for only a couple or few days that I then had started to pee the bed in my sleep... Even when getting hit with the belt or paddle I did not say a word to them about the abuse.. I was too afraid to. I was too afraid to get up in the middle of the night to get to the bathroom in fear that the person would be there waiting in the dark. For the longest time and even into my early adult hood I had to have a light on in the bathroom or in the house to have light incase I had to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night. Also ever since that had happened to me, I have not had a decent nights sleep... I sleep but if I hear a sound I am wide awake. I let it go after that but then when I had my first child and my baby being a girl.. I could not help but have everything come back to me....I had not slept good at all. I would dream of someone breaking into the home and doing aweful things to her and me then killing my boyfriend after making him watch it all. I even day dreamed of the things happening... I could not sleep til I thought and knew that the doors were all locked and that was not before checking them over and over again about 10 times. I got tired of it and had to go to counciling for it... For the fact that the step mom never believed me when she was told I never told my father. I know now that he knows because he is up there in Heaven. I know that he is watching over me and my 3 children. I have never really got over it all. I still today can not sleep if my children are not in the same area as me as we sleep. If they are in the next room I have to get up in the middle of the night to check on them and make sure they are still there. Ok I am now glad that they caught that sick person and hope that they never let him out on the streets again. I pray that he has not harmed anyone else these years on the run. I always say that if anyone ever touched my children in any way they would get their private cut off and stuffed down their throat so that they could never harm another child in their life... I hardly ever let my children go anywhere...I sometimes fear for them while they are in school. |
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December 8, 2007, 6:12 pm PST
Quote From: starwolf Sadly for some children, the family never listens to them, as no one wants to believe that it would happen, or that it is very real. If the child tells, then they get punished, but not the one that did it. No matter what they say or do, they are the ones considered no good, and what the other person did is covered up. The subject is closed as far as the family is concerned, but not the child, and years later, that child within the now adult does feel for those that go through this. Sexual Predators are very sick people, and children need the protection adults can give, if they are willing. You would be surprised how many adults will turn a blind eye. I know it is not an easy path for a child if the family is not there for them, but it is a big help for those that have family that stand by them. Some predators are not caught, no matter how much you may try to get others to listen. Some stand by the predator. Sometimes I wonder why anyone would stand by the predator and the victim is no longer family to them. Everyone is different, and we all choose our own path in the end. I hope more children that go through this are capable of becoming adults that do have a good healthy relationship, and not go the path many choose of drugs, alcohol etc. A child is vunerable and needs the family more than ever at these times. They need to know they are still loved and not an outcast in their own family. I feel more predators are being caught today and that is something long over due. I have been there and really feel for those children that go through anything similar or worse. It is a difficult thing to live with, and yet you do. I moved forward in my life, but have met many that did not. This is a show I plan to watch! You are right. When yo are abused by a family member for 10 yrs and you told and it was misunderstood by some and ignored by others but told to be a "good girl " but not being llowed to be one. That does make you feel like a " black sheep". This is really affecting my life, marriage, and my son's life. I wish I had someone to help me. I get so frustrated I am hard to get along with. I feel hopeless and have done desparate things. My mom was killed in May 2007 and she was my best friend. |
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January 16, 2008, 5:16 pm PST
Quote From: starwolf Sadly for some children, the family never listens to them, as no one wants to believe that it would happen, or that it is very real. If the child tells, then they get punished, but not the one that did it. No matter what they say or do, they are the ones considered no good, and what the other person did is covered up. The subject is closed as far as the family is concerned, but not the child, and years later, that child within the now adult does feel for those that go through this. Sexual Predators are very sick people, and children need the protection adults can give, if they are willing. You would be surprised how many adults will turn a blind eye. I know it is not an easy path for a child if the family is not there for them, but it is a big help for those that have family that stand by them. Some predators are not caught, no matter how much you may try to get others to listen. Some stand by the predator. Sometimes I wonder why anyone would stand by the predator and the victim is no longer family to them. Everyone is different, and we all choose our own path in the end. I hope more children that go through this are capable of becoming adults that do have a good healthy relationship, and not go the path many choose of drugs, alcohol etc. A child is vunerable and needs the family more than ever at these times. They need to know they are still loved and not an outcast in their own family. I feel more predators are being caught today and that is something long over due. I have been there and really feel for those children that go through anything similar or worse. It is a difficult thing to live with, and yet you do. I moved forward in my life, but have met many that did not. This is a show I plan to watch! Alienated Terrorists & Holocaust, for children whom are victimized Spiritualy, Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, Verbally & Holistically...by the shadows of these walking corpse (predators). These predators wonder in the wilderness of death, preying for their next lot of victims, claiming the Souls of innocents, taking them through the shadows of death, and cremating their preys internally & externally. Believe me, I was once a victim, and my family/parents did absolutely nothing about it, hence didn't want to know of it. So! What doe's family mean to me? THEY DON'T!
When a victim alarms his/her parents/families, IMMDIATELY! Your families turn against you, deny & disown you, whilst the predator (s) snarls free from their nest. You are seen as a family predator for sounding. The victim reigns shame & embarrassment upon their family, whilst reaching out for HELP & PROTECTION! Everyone covers for the PREDATOR...Where doe'sthat leave the scarred victim? Yes...the subject is closed...there was never a case as far as families are concerned. If there is, the victims needs CRISIS! Everything is the Victim at fault or the victim asked/looked for it, the victim brought it on. THE VICTIM! THE VICTIM! THE VICTIM!
I know...I was once a prisoner for life, but now, I can see and I am free from the dessert of death. For death no longer has a strong hold on me. I agree...families cease not to hand over their predators, they hide behind closed doors and four walls...too ashamed to open up and sound, HEY WE HAVE A PREDATOR in their homes, where children live. Families can't always help their own, but it's never too late for them to alarm the system of hidden predators behind their 4 walls and closed doors. The best plan for families to help these predators, is to reach out. Don't wait till it's too late and an innocent life has been strucked by aliens.
I agree with you...look forward to the more replies...
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