Quote From: selfcomesaloneWhen raised by people you find out are not worthy of your respect,
then you can realize that you can CHOOSE who you want in your life.
They want to live in the lies most of the world lives in. And being
Italian should not make it different. Sure, close family ties LOOK
Nice on the outside... but consider who you really WANT around
you, your loved ones, and most of all your kids.... if you CHOOSE
to have them.
I know a girl who is one of 15 molested by their father.... she now
has kids, so do the others and the molesting is STILL HAPPENIN.
So see the picture you want to paint for yourself, don't just apply a
smile like lipstick, know the truth is for your future family's safety,
Or else it will happen to your daughter and you will be blamed by her.... get the point?
Be glad they showed their true colors now, and not after it happens to your kids.
Good luck, you can be LOVE without PAIN!!!!!
I back what Gods word says. When you leave your family (marrige) you cleave with your new family. They then become priority.. You should not have went to family do's on your own. Your poor husband didnt want to go because of what was done to you - yrs before. It was difficult for him knowin he has to mingle and socialise around the person (your uncle) who did this to you. On top of this, your family made fun of him not wanting to mix with your family? I know you love your family dear and what happened to you is one adults fault. In your husbands eyes he probably feels you have pushed him away, your family critiise him and now your having maritial problems all because of what your uncle did. In my opinion, your husband has done nothing but defend his wfes honor. Your family whom you love and cherish so much and made such a priority not only disrespected your husband but now call you liar.
Nothing is going to change thier mind. Go home to your husband and show him how much you love him, get councelling for what the uncle did and move fwd before that horrable act destroys your marriage.
Forgive him - not for him, for YOU.
I was so sad to read your experience. May God heal you.
Peace ~
