Quote From: sensible1It's all about commitment!!!!! [Assuming people married each other for right reasons. Marriage has ups and downs, good days and bad, good years and bad, surprises--both good and bad, and so on. The newness wears off. Romance wanes. The physical flame flickers. Weeds set in. And so on. A man or woman may still love each other, but go into an affair for various reasons. Commitment will see a couple through it all, especially if they commit not only to the marriage and to each other, but commit to being happy--not just remaining married. Remember: no one can make someone else happy; no one can provide everything another needs or wants, emotionally. Learn to be happy and content. The grass is not really greener on the other side of the fence--there will be problems there too, sometimes the same ones. Again,
its all about commitment! I have to agree somewhat. You do have to choose to be happy and work at it, but ever person had needs and it is my opinion that the main reason people stray is these needs not being fulfilled. This doesn't mean once in a while, but over a long period of time having your needs not met. Each person has different needs. When I got married our minister went over all this stuff and explained it very clearly and I have to agree. My last girl friend cheated on me, but I was not completely faultless. I worked too much, and did't pay enough attention to her. So some other guy came in and did and before I knew it, I had lost my children and my to be wife and of course the house and everything in it. I did get to part with all the bills though (that was great :) ). Anyway I learned my lesson and I don't think my wife will ever stray unless i ignore her.
That being said,there is a point where you are not pumping out the "LOVE" hormone and people can be influenced by outside parties. I think men in general can be TAKEN by a women no matter what if she takes the time to keep working on him. It's hard to imagine a situation where the man couldn't get away, but eventually a man will give in.. I am sure DR Phil would too if he were unable to escape and she kept working on him.
