Replies to '03/20 Policing the Parents'

I'm sorry that you had to experience the hardships of dealing with an alcoholic, however, with a little research you will see that most alcoholics want to stop and most are ashamed of their actions and their alcoholism but are unable to do so without a lot of help.  Your instance may be different and the alcoholic you dealt with may not have wanted to seek help but in my dealings with alcoholics, it's like a moth to a flame.  They know it's bad, they don't necessarily like the taste but something inside them is not wired correctly to stop them.  With help such as counseling and AA, they can learn how to deal with the cravings and urges.  You wouldn't tell someone with Tourette's or OCD to just suck it up and knock it off, would you?

I agree with you Jan.  I am currently watching this episode and I don't know who I am more mad at right now, the mom or the dad.   The mom makes comments that she is the sole financial provider, but yet she still keeps that waste of life in her daughters' life.  These poor girls are now scaed for the rest of their life because their father would rather love beer vs. his family.  

If mom doesn't kick out dad then, I am sorry, but I feel she is also an abuser/neglector.   Sorry mom, but sometimes the truth hurts.   Start thinking abott your girls and a little less than your so called husband.  I would stop worrying about giving him another chance in rehad and start putting your time and money into counseling for the three of you.   He has had his chances.