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October 29, 2007, 5:36 am PDT
Thanks again
Quote From: jaimie1974The only way you should allow him to see her is while someone else is also present at your home; basically a witness. This is a tactic for you to find out if he really is interested in spending time with the baby. If he is agitated that someone else is there in the home, then you will know for sure that he is only there to try to get to you. If he accepts that someone else is there and simply goes about playing with the baby; then perhaps he really is interested in creating a relationship with her. As for fearing your childs resentment; dont. You are only thinking of what is best for her. If you were planning how to keep him away from her because you wanted to start a new life with another man or something, then that is a reason for her to resent you later. But the reasons that you have for protecting your child are real- you dont trust him at all, and you are the one and only adult that this precious baby can count on to protect her. By protecting her, you arent letting her down, no matter what. I wish you the best. I tried to make that post as short as possible, there just seems like so much. It has helped open my eyes to the facts just by trying to tell someone else. It is very comforting to read your response. I thank you for taking the time, and I agree with your suggestions. Thanks again.
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