Replies to '12/25 Parent Trap'

Quote From: oscarpooh

my husband has been in 'the system' of friend of court for over 10 years.  he divorced his ex-wife because of continuous affairs that did result in pregnancy.  despite this the court has continued to perpetuate her fraud - their being of the 'mind' What's in the best interest of the child - forcing him to pay child support.  while we have also been of the 'mind' what's in the best interest of the child was having their 'dad' in their life.  the ex-wife has effectively severed any contact.  there's been no visitations for over 5 years!!  she has told the children who they knew as their 'dad' is not their father but she continues to get child support.  and the courts support her - "can't legislate morality" is what we're told in response to trying to get visitation enforced.  but they can legislate child support.  until year ago we could not find an attorney willing to take on this issue.  most attorney's (like gloria allred) continuing the perpetuation of fraud, misguided belief & their definition of best interest of the child.  there is the paternity act of 1994 that allows for this issue to be addressed yet it's not looked at, nor (to date) has my husband been allowed to bring it into debate.  again, the courts reciting what's in the best interest of the child.  fortunately there is one child who has become of age (is over 18) and has made contact again with her 'dad' - stating he was always there for her as her dad and she's of the belief there's no reason for that to change.  it takes more than biology to father a child.  the mother will only tell her that she's her child and will give no information to the real biological father.  it is extremely frustrating and hurtful to us as well as to the children involved to answer the question of what's in the best interest of the child to be all about money.  with all that you hear about how children raised with both 'parents' being of the childs best interest in the friend of the courts mindset we will continue the path and risk the mental health of our children. 

Quote From: oscarpooh

my husband has been in 'the system' of friend of court for over 10 years.  he divorced his ex-wife because of continuous affairs that did result in pregnancy.  despite this the court has continued to perpetuate her fraud - their being of the 'mind' What's in the best interest of the child - forcing him to pay child support.  while we have also been of the 'mind' what's in the best interest of the child was having their 'dad' in their life.  the ex-wife has effectively severed any contact.  there's been no visitations for over 5 years!!  she has told the children who they knew as their 'dad' is not their father but she continues to get child support.  and the courts support her - "can't legislate morality" is what we're told in response to trying to get visitation enforced.  but they can legislate child support.  until year ago we could not find an attorney willing to take on this issue.  most attorney's (like gloria allred) continuing the perpetuation of fraud, misguided belief & their definition of best interest of the child.  there is the paternity act of 1994 that allows for this issue to be addressed yet it's not looked at, nor (to date) has my husband been allowed to bring it into debate.  again, the courts reciting what's in the best interest of the child.  fortunately there is one child who has become of age (is over 18) and has made contact again with her 'dad' - stating he was always there for her as her dad and she's of the belief there's no reason for that to change.  it takes more than biology to father a child.  the mother will only tell her that she's her child and will give no information to the real biological father.  it is extremely frustrating and hurtful to us as well as to the children involved to answer the question of what's in the best interest of the child to be all about money.  with all that you hear about how children raised with both 'parents' being of the childs best interest in the friend of the courts mindset we will continue the path and risk the mental health of our children.