Quote From: cabbageeI am very shocked about how easy it was for this family to be torn apart by the fathers new wife. As a second wife I know that staying in my place means that certain things about my husbands previously family is taboo. This wife got lucky because she happened to be correct. But what if she had been wrong. She had a personal agenda in suggesting that DNA test. This father claimed the mother gave him clues long ago and she just didn't own up to it today. If she did that was his chance to take action. Not now, not after so many years have gone by, not at the expense of his beautiful daughter. His response to his new wife if he were really a man should have been I chose to turn my head to that possibility years ago and I am not going to revisit that issue now. A new wifes responsibility is not to tear apart whatever was built before we came along but to try to make the changes easier for the children. This DNA test was never about doing anything that was going to benefit that child. If I had thought that ever about one of my husbands children I would have NEVER suggest he do anything about it. Inside a marriage if their is no question at BIRTH I do not feel there should ever be a question. You are married and that is not something you can just walk away from. Children who are born into relationships that are unstable should not suffer from the actions of those parents. Any man who is told that he has fathered a child outside of a marriage should request a DNA test and if not he is saying I trust and love this woman and child enough that it does not matter and if that be the case then a judge should make them abide by the original decision they made when they were initially told they could have fathered a child. Men if you want women to be more accountable then you can't drag your feet about it. They shouldn't have the right to wait 10, 12, 15 years and then when things go sour say well maybe the child isn't really mine.
This board isn't about the new wife. Men have as much right to a DNA test 2, 5, 8, 10 or 15 years later, just as the law allows women to name any man as the father and give them as many years as they want to come back on a father for child support. Why does a man legally have 2 years when there is no time limit for a woman?
Many times there would be no question at birth because a man has no CLUE at the time his wife even cheated. Many times it is years later before the pieces start to fall together.
A man should never have to pay support on a child UNLESS he knows from day one it isn't his child and HE chooses (not the woman choosing for him) to stay in the child's life.
Men shouldn't ever be in this situation and wouldn't be in DNA was mandatory at every birth.
If Mia had been wrong, then she would have been wrong. But she wasn't, and it doesn't matter how or why Enrique found out, all that matters is that he finally found out the truth. No one stops the think that if the child were hurt really bad and needed blood at the hospital and they told him there was no way he was the father, would people say the hospital was in the wrong for telling Enrique?? Point being, it doesn't matter how he found out. This isn't about a stepmom suggesting her husband do a DNA test, it's about women committing Paternity Fraud.
