Replies to '12/25 Parent Trap'

Quote From: filmsforme

If a father of 10 years, after building a relationship with a child that he later finds out is not his biological child, questions whether or not he should continue paying for that child, I believe his priorities and values are completely out of whack!  If he really loved his child, he would not change their relationship one tiny bit, and he would not change, financially or any other way, the lifestyle he has given to that child for so many years.  His behavior shows me that he did not truly love this child in the first place.  A good parent could not have given up their child for any reason, even if they found out after 10 years that the child was someone elses.  Look back at the story of "Baby M"!!  That was only 2 years and those mother could not easily give up their child that was not biologically theirs.  To stop supporting his child financially would change her life, change what she is used to, how she is used to living, and certainly will change the way she thinks her father feels about her.  He should have better life values, especially when it comes to the feelings of his daughter, the one that HE has made to believe was his child (no matter what his wife has made him to believe). If he has a grudge with the mother for being dishonest about his being the biological father, then he should take it up with her, and with her only.  Not involving a child in the discussion.  He would not have involved a child in the process of "making" a child and he should not involve a child in the process of "un-making" this child... his.  Shame on both of those parents.  I believe neither of them should parent any of their children.  Their values, their treatment of their children are a danger to both of their children.  If possible the children should live with a family member that loves them.  The parents should go to counseling, learn how to be loving parents, learn how to behave properly, and then possibly have their children returned to them.