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October 29, 2007, 3:08 pm PDT
 Quote From: kimode Hello everyone. I have left a message on here before and maybe someone may be able to help me. Last night, I came home from work to a locked house and could hear my 17 year old daughter crying in the house. When the door got opened i was greeted by an extremely intoxicated husband and a 9mm pistol. When I asked what was going on my daughter screamed that he threatened to rape and kill her and he said yes and kill me too. than slammed the door in my face so i called 911. Needless to say he was arrested on drunken disorderly, 2 counts each of assault with gun and communicating threats. I took out a restraining order (called a domestic violence order) so he can NEVER have a gun again. He is in jail with a $10,000 secured bond, which he will not get anyone to post for him, and I plan on letting him stay there until his court date in one month than having him involuntarily committed into a psychiatric facility. He hasn't always been like this. I just want him to get the help he needs. Something in his brain isn't right. we have been together 11 yrs and these change have gotten progressively worse in the past 6 months or so, This last outburst stemmed from him believing that i am getting revenge on his infidelity over a year ago by cheating on him back because he has seen a cpl different men talking to me at work (i work at a convenience store) Could something medica/psychological be causing this? Did I do the right thing by having him arrested?? I feel that this is the only way to get him some help. any thoughts?? please??? we live 700 miles away from our home state so family support isn't possible. thank you for your time and thoughts on this Yes, you did the right thing. I can’t imagine how scared your daughter must have been, and how terrified you must have been, too. What other choice did you have? Your husband is unpredictable; one or all of you could have been killed by him last night. Right now, you are probably in a state of shock that this happened to you; this is the kind of thing that happens to other people. Please don’t doubt even for a moment that you did what is right! You asked if some medical or psychological problem could cause his actions- the answer is yes, it is possible. Is he an alcoholic? Being completely honest with yourself, how long has he been an alcoholic? A person in late stages of alcoholism can become psychotic. Have you thought about what you will do if your husband become a sober person? Would you consider taking him back? That isn’t something you should be deciding right now, but you will face it in the future. Filing for a divorce would be reasonable; but at the same time, it is understandable that you feel sadness for the man he used to be. I’m sure that you shared some good times, otherwise you wouldn’t be with him. But the good times are over. Take care of YOU. |
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