Replies to '07/04 Body Dysmorphia'

Hi Liz,
I seen the show on BDD.  I have a few suggestions.
   -Before Diana can love life, she needs to love herself again.  I think she stopped when she was abused.
   -She is stuck in a three year old mentality and has learnt at a very young age to self medicate, which works for her.  She is very fragile and needs love, support, and kindness...meaning if you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing.  There is sooooooooo much stuff in her experiences and many traumas that she has to deal with, it's going to take a lot of time...baby steps.
   -When your sister is obsessing over her looks, she is keeping her mind distracted from the real issues.
   -She will need to get to the root of the problem and learn healthy loving behaviours.
   -It may help if Diana has a female specialist instead of a male.  I could tell right away that she was going to have issues with the Dr. that Dr. Phil found for her.  I was feeling for her as if it were me...screaming "NOOOOO" inside of me.  This just won't work.  She needs to feel comfortable and relaxed with the person that she is going to bond with, sharing her most inner secrets and fears that she has never been able to speak out loud about.  Otherwise added stress will lead to deeper problems.  She needs to find someone that she looks forward to seeing and comes out ever session learning a little something more about being okay.
   -I really could connect and relate with your sister while watching the show.  So much that I asked my boyfriend to watch the first half hour of the show, if he wanted a little more insight on what I'm going thru.  It is even hard for me to understand and explain my issues.  I am currently off work for the last year.  I am getting counselling and still need lots more.  I find that I am benefiting better with my counsellor at a rape crisis center than my psychiatrist.  She seems to get me, also this center specializes and is more knowledgeable in these types of traumas.   We will be starting with EMDR next week (I can keep you posted if you are interested).
   -Please don't compare your life with your sister.  I hope you realize that she didn't choose hers.
   -I could go on and on and on and on, there is too much to say.
   -We all want to see a happy healthy aunt for your kids.
 
My prayers are with Diana and everyone else suffering with illnesses.