Replies to '12/25 Parent Trap'

I completely agree with you here.  The sad part to me is that the fathers feel forced to go to the courts and ask to sign off on their legal rights in order to not be punished for x amount of years in paying child support for a child that is simply not theirs.  It is ludacrous that there are no laws to protect the rights of the children AND the innocent fathers.  If there HAS to be a court order in place, it should be for visitation so that the mother cannot use the child as a pawn.

In my case, I know that my ex would have stayed in contact with the daughter he raised as his own.  However, he didn't even make enough money to support himself.  He dropped out of college to marry and support the girl that he "thought" he got pregnant so he was working blue collar jobs.  He also started going back to college, which is extremely costly.  After years of suffering and barely getting by, he should be allowed to move forward with his own life.

The ONLY way possible to get out of the child support was to sign over rights b/c the mother would NOT allow us to see the daughter anymore unless we PAID.  The thing that makes me sick is that EVERY time that child came to us, she had clothes that didn't fit her.  The mother spent every penny on herself and going out partying every night.  I literally got sick when I was giving her a bath one night and she was wearing a size 5 panties...she was ACTUALLY a size 8.  The band was cutting into her skin.

If we could have had the money to hire a top lawyer and fight for full custody, we would have in a heartbeat.  We showed that child more love and support and attention than her own mother did.  She told me all the time that she wished that I was her mother b/c I paid attention to her.  It broke my heart.

People need to understand that it is NOT easy for the father to walk away.  It is absolutely devastating.  My ex became so depressed that he often thought about taking his own life.  His purpose was ripped from him.  He still continues to battle depression.  The mother is the one to blame for everything.  It is a crime and it should NOT pay.

That attorney that was on Dr. Phil made me SICK SICK SICK.  I wanted to just slap her face she was making me so mad.  She has no clue what these fathers go through.  Yes, it is sad for the child, but let's get a legal system that says to a mother: YOU CANNOT DUPE INNOCENT MEN INTO PAYING FOR YOUR CHILDREN OUT OF WEDLOCK!!  Wouldn't that stop the problem?  Then, if a man found out he wasn't the father, he would have the choice to be there emotionally and physically for the child.  How can a man do that if the mother is threatening jail time for nonpayment of child support?  It is absolutely insane that women get away with this and there are no laws protecting the innocent father.

I am so sorry my posts are so long.  It just makes my blood boil and I could go on and on and on....