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November 1, 2007, 7:38 am PDT
 Quote From: hastab My Son's girlfriend tried to say that she was pregnant with my Sons baby. The time frame made it impossible for the baby to be his, but he married her and put his name on Shawna's birth certificate. When they got divorced he had DNA done on Shawna to get out of paying Child Support for her. They had a another baby girl and he pays $900 a month for her. He said that $900 a month was plenty to pay for both . His lawyer said that he would have to pay double without the DNA. I was heartbroken that he would do such a thing to Shawna, my Granddaughter. I Love her with all my heart, she is just as precious to me , DNA doesn't make a flying Hoot to me. Now, my ex daughter in law will not let me see Shawna. When I pick up Kylee I have to leave Shawna behind. She cries, I cry, Kylee cries.. You can't imagine the Heartbreak I feel when Shawna is calling for me "Grandma take me too, PLEASE" I Love Shawna just as if she were blood. There's always something special about the first Grandchild...I'll never forgive my Son for doing this to Shawna.....God only knows what her Mother is telling her....So here I sit missing my first born Grandchild.............I hang on to the thought of explaining this unexplainable and dispicable behavior of her Father when she is old enough.....But can the damage be repaired.........How do I tell my 5 year old Granddaughter......Grandma has Loved her from the start and she always be in my Heart....My Son paid thousands of dollars to his Lawyer just so he wouldn't have to pay Child Support for Shawna.......If I had the money I would pay it myself just to have my Shawna in my LIFE....Grandma Shasta "Forever & Always I will her............ It is a shame that his ex-wife doesn't put aside her bitterness for the sake of her child. She is allowing her anger to hurt and emotionally destroy her own child. What is even more terrible is that she doesn't realize that she did in fact lay down with another man so she should seek financial support from that guy. Does the other man have any idea about the fact that he has a daughter? I feel for you especially when you seem to be such a loving person and have a great amount of love for Shawna.
On the flip side, I could also understand your son's position...imagine having to pay $1800 a month...that is a mortgage payment. $900 a month is pretty darn steep. It's one thing to pay that money for your own flesh and blood but ultimately he really has to think about his future also. Without money, he will starve, struggle and will never be able to live his own life too. It is a shame that everyone's lives are affected by situations such as this but the real father should bare the financial obligations...I sincerly hope in the future you are able to reconnect with Shawna and wil be allowed to resume relationship...I hope your son's ex-wife realizes the harm she is doing. |
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