Quote From: younginsI am truly sorry you had to experience the pain of being cheated on. I understand your anger. When it comes to having an affair, I believe it is mostly driven by most peoples emotional needs. There are people who do it just out of spite - but for others I believe it is an emotional release.
I remember the OW in my affair rationalized her acts as "Sometimes, people do what, at the time, seems like the right thing to do." Sounds like a cop out? Maybe. I felt there was a closed door between me and my wife. What I have learned through therapy is my depression/OCD distorted my perception of the situation. While I am still working to get over my issues, I have to do a sanity check when I feel negative about something. Mental illness is a real thing. While I do not want to use it as a cruch, it does helps me understand myself better.
I speculate you would always look down on me and others who have cheated. Thats ok. I have forgiven myself.
Just like myself, you are a good person.You deserve quality relationships. You are a loving person.
I hope you find your peace,
Chris
has your wife, family, and friends thought about forgiving you? If a person realizes they have a serious problem, then go to the hospital like a person would with any other illness they might have. Why did you go to another women for emotional support? How about a close male friend, or a counselor, or to church, or to your dog? I am flabbergasted at the idiotic exuses some people dream up. If people are sick of their spouses then say so and then move on to another body. That is what we are bodies, like a car you get tired of that one you simply trade off for another one. Once is a mistake but in the case of my husband it was over 10 times what is wrong with this picture?
