You are absolutely right! The child AND the father BOTH get hurt in this situation. I have lived it in real life. My HS sweetheart got into this situation. We got back together 4 years ago after not seeing each other for about 6 years after HS. I urged him to take a DNA test with his then 5 year old daughter. He did when she was 6 and he found out he was NOT the father. When she was 8 years old we finally had to file suit against the mother so that he could give up his legal rights to the child and no longer be threatened with backpay child support. Today he is a completely different man. He has shut down emotionally and I doubt he will ever trust anyone again. It breaks my heart. That little girl was his entire life.
It enrages me that people are calling Enrique a bad father. What choice does he have when the mother will not allow him to continue a relationship with Selena unless he pays child support? If the mother truly cared about her daughter, she would sign a court order stating that Enrique does not have to pay child support but that he can still continue visitation.
No way in hell would I pay for a child that was not mine when the identity of the real father is known. That is the man that should be held responsible. If anything, Enrique is a good man and a good father. I could see the hurt and the pain that is in his heart by looking into his eyes. It is the same hurt that I see in my ex-boyfriend’s eyes every time I look at him.
