Quote From: irismarieIn this particular case I think that the biggest problem is the step mom. I think the husband should have kept the secret from his daughter and he should have continued to let her know that there was never anything that would change the way he loves her. A few dollars from his pocket would not hurt him as much as he has hurt this young lady. And the bond between him and his daughter should have been stronger then the love of a second wife who is only interested in the money and how it would effect her.
There is a time and place for all things and this man ,at the insistance of this second wife, picked the wrong time and place to tell his daughter. Sorry isn't enough. Blame, at this time in the life of the child, will not change facts. And the fact is the mother was wrong from the beginning but until all this fuss was made from the step mom the child could have continued until adulthood and then the message of parenthood could have been made available to her. If the health of the child was at stake it would have been another matter completely.
And oh yes I am married for 56 years and all my children are my husbands and there is no second wife.
A few dollars from his pocket would not hurt him as much as he has hurt this young lady.
Who are you kidding. A few dollars? Lets talk more like hundreds of dollars. As a wife who has been paying child support for a child my husband didn't even know about about until the child was almost 10 ( from a one night stand) The amount of money makes a big differance to our family. Our two children who were planned, concieved and born into a marriage before we even knew about the other child, now have to suffer and go without because the mother decided to play with peoples lifes. She decided to have a baby on her own and not contact the father, but when things got hard 10 years later, then she wants money.
The mother in the story is the one who needs to step up and take the blame for the situation. I don't agree with how the child was told or even that the child was told, but the Mother could have taken responsiblity for her actions and told the "father" that she wanted him to stay involved in the childs life, but that he was no longer finacially responsible. This child should not know anything about money.
Women need to remember they did not have to have the baby, or keep the baby, there are options, Not getting pregnant until you know you are in the right relationship is a good one. I did alot of running around in my younger days, but NEVER got pregnant. Birth control is too available. If you can't figure that out, you really shouldn't be having children.
