Quote From: shawnylou
get an attorney to handle the problems and become executor of the will.I "feel" that no family member should ever be in charge of this, it cause hostility, doubts and real issues later on, especially when property is involved and large amounts of money over 50,000. each.
MY "older" sister was exhausted after my adopted dad passed on and was bitter about so many issues she became angry at her middle sister and decided to withhold things from her she simply should not have because she had the power to and the middle sister did not have the energy to fight her. that was back in 1998 and there is so much hostility now that none of us talk at all. Not just because of how that was handled but because the old sister who handled the estate sent out letters to every last person in the family trashing the older sister , her middle sister to harm her deeply. That was so heart breaking to read and watch as the middle sister was all alone on all holidays and the sister who had handled the estate became more bitter as the days progressed.
I have disconnected with all of them , but not for that reason, but for reasons of years of abuse.
This whole issue was sad and the oldest one sits and does not acknowledge the harm she did , in her own way of allowing the withholding from a sister she grew up with and allowed only her own vengeance to get in the way.
Is the inheritance "evil" or the people who gouge for it? It is pitiful on all levels and I suggest an attorney and share the inheritance.[ pay him/her
My brother was given Power of Attorny becasue he is local and I am not. He has never had an adult relationship with Dad. Dad has been diagnosed with frontal lobal dementia and my brother refers to him as the "demented guy". My brother has always been out for himself and is now refusing to share information with me or Dad about Dad's finances. Anytime my Dad askes him for info he sends me a scathing email and blames me for Dad's outburst. Dad never has these outbursts with me and i think he should be mad about having his financials stripped from him
A guardian for Dad is a great idea, but would create a legal battle I'm not sure I want to get into. i know I can also challenge is POA but the results would still be a legal battle.
My brother and I are not close, and I feel he needs to be accountable to Dad and do what Dad asks him to do. I also feel he should share information with me regarding Dad's finances. Because he doesn't, I wonder what he is trying to hide.
What should I do?
