Quote From: laripat I feel sorry for the parents who for the last two years tried to get their underage daughter to understand why it was not good to be married from a man from a different culture. But at 18 she is now a adult and I would say, Good Luck and happiness. At that age she does not really understand the big cultural differences and living with a man she does not really know. Some day she might be sorry but she might be stuck in a country she can't come back from. Young love saying but I Love him is not enough.
Maturity and sharing life together when you are ready to be married is certainly not for any 18 year old.
I waited until 30 to get married. I loved my 20's. I would not trade all the vacations and expereinces for anything. Plus I grew up and learned to take care of myself. I am now married 15 years and Love my husband, and am a better mother than I would have been at 19 or 20.
I disagree with you on several points. First of all, there is nothing wrong with marrying someone from different culture. It is not easy, but it is not wrong. There are sacrifices that have to be made on both sides, and it takes adjustment and education (about the other culture) from both parties. But then again, that's not really any different than what needs to happen in a marriage between two people from the same culture.
Another thing that you said that I disagree with is that marriage is not for any 18 year old. I got married when I was 18, and I could not be happier. I also had my first child when I was 18. I am a good mother, and my children are very well taken care of and they are well adjusted. I don't feel like I am missing out on anything, and neither does my husband. We have been married happily for almost six years, and being married and having children young has not stopped us from doing the things we like to do. We are both college students, both about to graduate, and we have a great family on top of that. It's not easy, but we get by.
That being said, I do think that what this girl did was pretty stupid. She traveled a very long distance to live with someone she didn't know at all. That is never a good idea, no matter how old you are. She had absolutely no idea what she was getting into. However, since she is 18, there really isn't anything that her family can do except pray that she is okay. It's very unfortunate that she made these poor choices, but now she has to live with them and learn from them. I hope everything works out for her, and I hope she is kept safe. I also hope that parents who see this learn from it. It is so important to know what your chilldren are doing, who they are talking to, and who they spend their time with. It is also important to talk to your children. The more that you talk to them about things, the less likely they are to get into trouble. Communication is essential.
