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November 28, 2007, 3:34 pm PST
11/13 Will Fights
Quote From: grandmax7It is a real shame when you have those in a family that depend on someone's death to help them with their retirement plan. I have one like this in my family. They have stated to everyone they are glad that my parents have died but still moan to anyone that will listen years later that they didn't get what they thought they should have. I even caught hell trying to pay final funeral expenses out of my own money because this one thought I was using money that should go to them. I would rather have my parents here with me than all the money & property in the world. I have been left with the feeling of being an only child but it does have an upside in all this because it has been peaceful never having to deal with them again. I understand your pain. I was not a true family member, but "I" was the one who was there with their mother. She and her mother and her brother all helped to raise me, as my mother left me and dissapeared when I was 7 years old. I had no choice but to be "there". It was not my fault, but I have been told that since I am not "blood" that I am not really "family". The oldest daughter of "Meemaws" says that she has the most say over what happens to her mothers' "things". Meemaw had a power of attorney, which was a "blessing" in disguise!!! She never once visited her mother for over 26 years! When she would go to the same nursing home to visit her sister, she never once went to see Meemaw (her mother). Now she keeps calling me and saying what all she did not get or find at the house during settlement. This just does not end. I guess she thinks I got "something"? I would rather have "Meemaw" instead of her things. There was no money left as Meemaw lived from dime to dime. I stood by her and was there for her while she was sick. She had four other living children, but none of them came! Now I got this Eleven page letter from her daughter "blessing" me out! I will not reply back to it, because that will just give her more fuel and make her even more bitter towards me. All I can do at this point is to pray for her and hope that she can "heal" somehow as there was animostiy between she and her mother. Somehow, I have to "let it go". It is so sad that people put themselves through this.
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