Replies to '06/16 A Daughter in Danger?'

 As a mother going through the same thing with my daughter, I must say DO NOT judge a person unless you've walked a mile in her shoes! I don't know if Mom made all the right decisions, but I do know this~besides the constant struggle of daily playing 'cop' (guarding the daughter, watching her every move, etc) there is also an internal struggle with letting her make some decisions on her own and grow up, and knowing when to step in and absolutely take control and risk losing your daughter for good. By law, they are still a minor at 16, yet they are legally able to consent to sex with an adult. My daughter was taught well, was a good student, wanted to go to college, wait to get married, etc~ until she met one controlling boy who was able to islolate her and turn her completely around. He convinced her to sneak out of the house late at night, skip school, have unprotected sex, and he was on his way to pick her up to run off and get married. I slapped a restraining order against him, took her cell phone away, cutoff the home phone, took the internet away, even took her bedroom door off. He continued to sneak her cell phones through her friends at school, and she continued to have access to him on the internet at school. The school told me they couldn't do anything about her having internet access while she was there, and they couldn't keep her there if she found ways to sneak out, even with the restraining order. Now, the 18 year old is in jail, and my daughter is 7 hours away from him living with her dad, but I know when she turns 18 she will go back to him because he has convinced her that no man will EVER love her the way he does.
To say this mother has failed as a parent is completely ignorant and unfair. Sometimes, as determined as you are to stop them, they are just as determined to find ways 'around' you, the law, and anyone else who tries to 'keep them apart'