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Replies to '06/16 A Daughter in Danger?'
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November 14, 2007, 5:51 pm PST
 Quote From: monhol i will not blame the mother. you can not watch these kids 24/7. people have jobs and other kids to raise. her mother probably talked to her over and over and it just went in one ear and out the other. when a child leaves the parents house they do what they want. kids have minds of their own and those are minds of a child not an adult. my 20 year old just met a man on the internet. i talked to him. come to find out she had him pick her up from our home. even he told my daughter that was not wise. but she is still going to his house and he has bought her things and she claims no sex but i was shocked to find she went to his house alone no less and now he knows where we live. this just goes to show how kids do not listen to us. actually i believe it is stupid on the woman's part to even go to another state with a man let alone another country. i have a friend who left her house , job, and her car, to be with a man another state. he had already cheated on her while he was in the other state when he first arrived in the state. he even told her and told her how stupid she was. he ended up dumping her and she got back with him months later and moved to the state with him. they were only together 6 months and she was back home. no job, no home, no car. she now has to start all over again. she is living with her grown kids. sad. i hate to say it but most men will not pack up and leave like that. he has to have some kind of control over the situation. not us women. we go in blind as bat and think love will conquer all. i learned at an early age that is not the case. actually i was 18 when i learned that. i am glad i was 18 and stupid i do not want to be 39 and stupid. get it together young lady. What do you mean, “you cannot watch these kids 24/7?” In this day and age of predators and sex offenders and whatnot out there, this is practically a suggestion/requirement. NO parent should have to work outside the home 10-12 hours a day to the point where all they do at home is eat and sleep (and it’s time we do something about the economy so they don’t actually have to.) Kids today need lots of attention, and for their parents to spend time with them, whether they are 5 or 15; it is a FACT. Dr. Phil has always stressed that if need be (and in Katie’s case, need definitely WAS), sell the house you currently live in for a smaller place, disconnect cable and such to reduce bills, etc. in order to WORK LESS and spend more time with the children. Other kids to raise? No excuse! Spend time with all the children as a FAMILY! Encourage the child in question (in a non-threatening, non-nagging tone) to get involved and spend time doing activities with the other children. It is not that hard.
I hate to get off topic, but these days, parents are working, working, working to do more than just pay the bills and mortgage and feed the family. We live in a society where material possessions take precedence over our children’s welfare, to live a forced celebrity lifestyle like Kanye West, Victoria “Posh Spice” Beckham, Hilary Duff, Justin Timberlake, et al. Shawn and Katherine’s family situation is living proof that this is not beneficial to the children at all, and it is coming back to haunt us. Really, there should be a psychology book speaking out against all this entitled, “Lock the Door, Honey, it’s the Joneses.” Nowadays, parents are realizing that children do best when one parent stays at home with them (unless, of course, you’re questioning the future of your marriage while working.) Which would you rather be spoiled with, lots of physical/emotional love from parents/guardians, or lots of “stuff” that will be obsolete or passé in a decade?
My point is, if Shawn had taken time out to spend with Katherine, and had “the talk” with her about strangers on the Internet to begin with, (which she obviously didn’t) she definitely would not be in this sticky situation to begin with. |
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