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November 15, 2007, 10:55 am PST
11/15 A Daughter in Danger? Part 2
Quote From: jennic64I wish I could sit down and talk to Katherine. We have a lot in common, the only difference was that he was in America on a student visa, and I actually married him. I was twenty and I thought I was "in-love" with the handsome, exotic Egyptian man...and it turns out that he was only after a greencard and money. When it was all over I was left in twenty-three thousand dollars in debt, heartbroken and alone. Katherine cannot possibly comprehend what she is dealing with here. She does not understand the culture and the life that she is setting herself up for. I lived that life for 1 year, and it is roller coaster ride to nowhere. Unfortunatly, I don't believe that her family is going to be able to tell her, because she "knows it all". I think her family just needs to be there to pick up the pieces when he disguards her, because she is no longer useful to him. Sometimes the best life lessions are the most painful ones.
That show really hit home for me...it is like looking in a mirror of myself eight years ago...I am so sorry that she has to learn this the hard way as I did. What happened to you happens occasionally unfortunately but still isn't the norm. Regarding men marrying for a visa I have simple advice to avoid this, it may seem superficial but it's true in most cases. If you are marrying someone from the Middle East and you are a westerner, you should marry a man who is wealthy, educated, and well travelled. If he is all of these things and is wealthy enough, he could care less about going to the U.S. on a marriage visa because he would have the ability to do so on his own if he wanted. Also he is living well enough in his own land there's no need to move abroad to make money. If he is well educated he will be able to explain his traditions to you easily understandable and to respect yours.
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