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November 16, 2007, 1:15 am PST
 Quote From: ccastrianni They should have no say or envolvement in this matter really... It is between Enrique and Maria - They were the co parents for both children during the marriage - the other parties were not there... Besides its Enriques and Maria's divorce - so the finalities and arrangements on how to deal and handle the parenting of the children after the divorce is between them.
Both Parents need to emotionally support the children. As for the Financial aspect... Maria - if you really want child support - fo find the guy that you had the affair with OR Better still GO GET A JOB and contribute to both your childrens financial future - you are also the parent and are responsible adult
Enrique I hope you can regain the relationship with trust you had again between you and your daughter - take my advice and out of your own heart if you want to ensure your daughter has a good start in life , put some money into an account that you can manage for your daughter and when the time comes it will mature and help her make a start into College.
I would rather give my money to my children rather than a partner... who may remarry, and may or may not divorce and use all my money for their own pleasures and troubles rather than using it to ensure for that of my childrens welfare... Hear Hear Ccastrianni! You said all the words that were going through my mind. Very impressive show, even if some aspects were missing (maybe deliberately to keep the debate going?), eg the issue of the biological father. Does Maria know or has she some idea who it could be? How much has been done to find him, does he know about this? He might not know at all, he might be extremely happy to hear about and see he's got such a beautiful daughter! He might want to prove by DNA he is the one, he might be financially secure and more than willing to take responsibility, he might subsequently not have been able to but wanted to have a child...... Undoubtedly Selina would also be interested to find out or maybe meet him. We just don't know - it could all be positive or totally the opposite - these aspects are unexplored. Anyway the show was good...the case should have been brought before "Judge Judy" which here in Sydney followed not long after Dr Phil, see how she would fix them up! On an even lighter note - you know how this all really started? Long time ago, when God had just created this world and we could still ask for changes, the women went to God and complained that they had to carry the baby for nine months then on top of that at birth still had to suffer excrutiating pain Men only had the nice parts in this all. "Fair enough," said God, "from now on the father will suffer the birthing pains." Happily the women went away - when the next baby was to be born, the father sat next to the bed and when "it" happened he could be heard screaming in pain....Great! Justice! All went well until some time later, a husband sat next to his wife's bed at home, preparing for the pain at birth. When it happened - their neighbour suddenly was heard screaming in pain! Hurriedly the women held a meeting again and unanimously decided that the previous arrangement was better - they submitted this to God, and he agreed to "undo" the change... Ever since some of us are left with the mess... ;) Back to being serious again...I agree we must try to do something about this, can't ask God anymore, but we have the tools now..maybe free guaranteed confidential DNA tests at birth, for the parties to face the issues there and then. |
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November 25, 2007, 12:38 am PST
Quote From: ccastrianni They should have no say or envolvement in this matter really... It is between Enrique and Maria - They were the co parents for both children during the marriage - the other parties were not there... Besides its Enriques and Maria's divorce - so the finalities and arrangements on how to deal and handle the parenting of the children after the divorce is between them.
Both Parents need to emotionally support the children. As for the Financial aspect... Maria - if you really want child support - fo find the guy that you had the affair with OR Better still GO GET A JOB and contribute to both your childrens financial future - you are also the parent and are responsible adult
Enrique I hope you can regain the relationship with trust you had again between you and your daughter - take my advice and out of your own heart if you want to ensure your daughter has a good start in life , put some money into an account that you can manage for your daughter and when the time comes it will mature and help her make a start into College.
I would rather give my money to my children rather than a partner... who may remarry, and may or may not divorce and use all my money for their own pleasures and troubles rather than using it to ensure for that of my childrens welfare...
I just need to clear up a statement you made. Child Support isn't going to the Ex-partner. Child Support is going to the Child or Children. If you are a Custodial Parent and the children's needs (Food, Clothing, Shelter, etc..) aren't being taken care of, then you can lose Custody of your children. This isn't a country where you can recieve child support and not show the court how the money is spent. The courts can check on the children. And if the Non-Custodial Parent can prove that you aren't spending the money on your children, then it is abuse. It is to the court's descression on if they want to check up on you. |
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