Quote From: marsplastiWow; I thought I had problems but when I read this I cry along with you.
Well; How long are you married and did you know all of t his before marriage and during mariage?
If you did then you will have to take accountability for what happens. I am sorry but have to
deal with your emotions and all of the pain whether its in church or free counseling. They do
have support groups for this. You may want to check into a 12-step program or coda. Codependent
anonymous because you might be an enabler. I say this because I am an enabler also only
I enabled an abusive man and let him get away with it.
You must have known this was coming and knew that a drug addict or bi-polar person wouldnt
help you financially or emotionally so now you have to worry about you and your daughter.
Can you stay with a family member or have one stay with you?
Why did you have to wait around for him to put money away for you. Why didnt you put money away for yourself knowing this was coming. I am not judging just trying to understand.
Are you going to wait for him or do you want a better life for you and your daughter for you know he
will do this again right? Get Help anyway you can. Church, CODA, Womens agencies, social services
whatever and fix YOU so that you dont keep repeating this pattern.
i didn't know that he was this way. and i didn't know really what bi-polar was until he was diagnosed with it. to answer some of ur questions i've been married for 6 yrs...he didn't use drugs up until 2 yrs ago...he did drink when we got together but i didn't find anything wrong with that until 3 yrs into the marriage when he couldn't stop. he did though...and went about 2 years or more til he went through depression when his father died, was then diagnosed bi-polar. then he started smoking weed. no i honestly didn't know that a bi-polar person would do this. this is all new to me. i never knew anyone with the disease. u've asked why didn't i put money away myself? good question...one reason was because i was playing catch up and i did get a part time job to help myself out. so in ways i thought that was helping myself. but i guess as a husband/father...should HE have some responsibility? he's the one that committed the crime...and i have to pay for something i had nothing to do with. amy i going to b there when he gets out? great question...i pray that this will make him a better person...but will i be there? time will tell...i say that only because anything can happen from now until then. and while he's got time to think...so do i. plus i will be on my own growing independantly. i have begun to go back to church...and i will take ur advice and look into some place to talk with some so that this doesn't happen again to me. thank u...
