Replies to '07/28 A Husband's Shocking Confessions'

Thank you so much for your concern.
I am doing all I can to improve the situation for my daughter and I.
 I have checked in to all my local resources, and have researched the laws that govern where I live, as have my therapists.  The shelters are on waiting lists.  They are located far from here, and I am unfamiliar with the child care resources that would be available to her after she attended primarily non-english speaking schools, while I am working.  I am afraid to remove her from all she knows that IS true and IS real. (Primarily me)

 In addition, if I place myself in a shelter, his rights would trump mine if he is in regular standard housing, so then he gets her anyway....I would get visitation.  I am thinking that that is NOT in the best interest of my child.

I am absolutely beside myself regarding my H's reaction to my accusations of what happened to our little girl....but the accused was his son.  How would anyone feel if your child was accused of harming another of your children?  Believe me, I am not, not, NOT taking his side.  I took my child's side, and immediately stopped the abuse the moment I learned about it by removing the child from my home.

I love my mother more than anything--she's my mom.  She is unable to see her mistakes, and like my H, re-writes history as she speaks.  She "doesn't remember any collusion" between she and my H..."except for the time I was overreacting to....."  She'll never admit it, how she pits people one to another, and how she is jealous that my H wanted to start putting his family before his job, and now she is betrayed...blah, blah.  I will always love her with all my heart, but at a safer distance. 

I am grateful for the kindness and support I have found here.