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November 19, 2007, 6:14 pm PST
Well, since I don't live in Perfect-Land...
Quote From: gemlover63It really upsets me when women are forced to take "some" of the blame for what their husbands and boyfriends do. Does anyone see that all the Dr.Phils, Phil Donahues and Oprahs pound into your head that your must accept your part of the problem. This is why it takes so long to get out of a bad relationship. We have to spend so much mental energy trying to understand where we went wrong. "IT IS STUPID!" No one can blame themselves for the actions of others. This is very, very true. However, it takes more than one to fail at a union. Two separate parties/entities...
Perhaps if the faithful party was deceived, and hurt by the acting out of the unfaithful party, the union fails.
It might not be the fault of the faithful party, but the union clearly failed. Perhaps it was a poor choice to marry in the first place....who knows.
All I can say from experience I can only control myself. Am I responsible for the crap my H did? Hell no. Was I perfect? NO. Did I deserve it? NO....
I believe it is rare that there is the PERFECT human anywhere, just hanging around, working or existing, and they're just perfection personified, and they have no accountability or responsibility nor do they have enough sense to make good choices.....because they are too busy being perfect. They have no role whatsoever......
I need to find someone like that to give me lessons, because I have yet to meet anyone that even comes close.
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