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Replies to '11/23 Mild vs. Wild'
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November 23, 2007, 5:31 pm PST
 Quote From: damara1210 Dr. Phil,
I am sick and tired of people blaming their ill mannered selfish children on the world. It is not some rapper, music artist, doll, or any person out of your home fault that your child is a good for nothing trashcan. It is your fault as the parent that your child is totally messed up. It is no one elses fault that your child isnt aware of the rights and wrongs in life, because it is the mother and fathers responsibly to see to it that their child enter the world a good sight, and not a blemish to be placed in solid brick walls of a prison.
You have once again managed to totally angrier me, because the one person on your show who spoke as a true parent and mother, is the very one you really didnt listen too. She said what I said that if you do not buy the clothes, or allow the clothes and behavior in your home. Then the child cant wear them. If you show you child in behavior and self-manner that this is the way a woman behaves in public. Then your daughter will do as you do.
As for the woman and her discussion of the male and female mind. Let me remind her that it is not womens fault on how men think and act. To say that a womans dress is the reason for sexual thoughts. Is to say that a woman who has been raped is the womans fault. No it is not. Rape has not a dang thing to do with clothes, manner, or anything but the fact that that he or she wanted power over someone, and they took it.
I am 31 years old, and no one tells me how dress. No one has that right since I turned 18 years old, and the woman who thought she should have that right should have used that right when the behavior first became a sight. She should not have allowed it when the child was 10 or 11 years old. When the girl was in the 8th grade dressing as she does now. Thats when she should have been taking a stand. Not when the girl is now a woman with a job. She lost the time and right. So she should do as she did when she should have been speaking. Just SHUT UP!!! And leave her daughter alone. As Cassie's mother, I did speak up when she was younger and dressing like that. However, her answer to that was to go live with her dad. I did repeatedly speak out and that was the reason that she didn't want to live with me -- because I wouldn't let her dress that way. Other than that, we have always had a wonderful relationship and I resent that you feel you have the right to tell me to SHUT UP! The reason that I have the right to say anything about Cassie's clothing is because she is now living with me and my other children, whom she is an influence on -- I want it to be a positive one, not a negative one (in respect to clothing). In the 3 months since we taped the show, I'll have you know that Cassie has slightly changed her way of dressing -- she no longer parades around in high heels and low-cut tops to walk the dog; she puts on another tank top under see-through ones; she has decided to start wearing skirts that are a little longer -- all of this because of the Dr. Phil show. When we were there, we left not really sure if it helped us at all or not, but I definitely think it has -- Cassie is much more aware of her clothing and the fact that she doesn't have to flaunt it just because she has it. She has a wonderful boyfriend and doesn't have to show off her body to everyone in the world -- she has truly started to grow up and is definitely more respectful of my thoughts on her clothing issue at home. I no longer worry about my autistic son ogling her when she is sitting around the house -- she is very conscious of being covered enough now -- not so much so that she is covered head to toe, of course, but she isn't falling out anymore, either. |
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