Replies to '06/24 Banned from the Wedding, Part 2'

 I have to admit that I am quite worried that there are actually people on this planet that can be so heartless.  It shouldn't matter what the mother in law to be (MITB) said in the past.  She has apologized and begged for forgiveness.  If I were the MITB I would find it very difficult to sit and take the continued accusations of the BTB (God forbid, can't the son see the real truth?) after apologizing to her and crying in front of the whole world (practically).  The BTB just wants to be right and show the MITB that she now has control of the son.  I can understand a bride not wanting to be married to a mommy's boy but that should be a topic discussed between the BTB and the GTB.  And IF the MITB is too demanding then the GTB should discuss that in private with his mother.

This spoiled rotten bride has not been brought up well.  She obviously is use to getting her own way and is testing the GTB to see if he will put her before his mother.  He will loose no matter which way he goes unless he intervenes and shows respect toward his mother and the spoiled BTB and handles the situation in a fair and honorable way that can bring a compromise by each.  HOWEVER, if either of the women feels they have to continue to belittle the other after the GTB feels he has come up with a good compromise then I would again in a firm but loving tone, state the compromise and ask that each day forward is a new day.  If one woman has a problem with the other in the future, it would be nice of them to go to lunch together and calmly discuss their feelings.  And each needs to know that their feelings may not be what is actually happening.  Sometime we can feel someone doesn't like us and we find out later that they not only liked us but loved us.  Our feelings were incorrect.

There is no reason the BTB and MITB have to be great friends or see each other hardly at all.  They both need to think of the son and GTB and his feelings.  A son should be allowed and want to visit his mother periodically and the wife should not begrudge that and know that she doesn't have to visit with him.

My husband is an only child at 63 and his mother is 90.  He goes over every Saturday and takes her grocery shopping and makes sure things are attended to that are important to his mother that she can no longer do.  She isn't the best house keeper and she will not allow any of us to help and she can afford to hire a cleaning lade though she refuses to spend the money and believes she is capable and needs the exercise anyway.  I love her but going over and sitting in a very filthy house is not my idea of a good time.  We get along fine when we speak and do see each other.  I don't begrudge his time with her and she will insist he take good care of me when I am sick.

  I truly hope this BTB doesn't have kids right away and use them to keep his husband away from his mother.  There should be forgiveness and forgiveness should be asked by both women and given.  If you both love this man, then don't cause him grief.  If one of the women continues to cause grief, then he would be stupid to put up with it. 

There has to be limits, rules, guidelines to follow with these two families.  It is apparent that neither of the parties have much knowledge and experience with respecting people, overlooking another's weaknesses and forgiveness.

 I still believe the BTB's parent's should be ashamed of themselves.  Nobody thinks their child is capable of being cruel.  Well think of all the murderers behind bars or put to death.  Their parents didn't think they were capable of killing either.  Wake up Mom and Dad!  Your daughter is very self centered and you are just pushing her more towards the edge.  She will have no friends or men who will care for her long if they are worth having because smart people walk away from people like her.

 I have to admit that I am quite worried that there are actually people on this planet that can be so heartless.  It shouldn't matter what the mother in law to be (MITB) said in the past.  She has apologized and begged for forgiveness.  If I were the MITB I would find it very difficult to sit and take the continued accusations of the BTB (God forbid, can't the son see the real truth?) after apologizing to her and crying in front of the whole world (practically).  The BTB just wants to be right and show the MITB that she now has control of the son.  I can understand a bride not wanting to be married to a mommy's boy but that should be a topic discussed between the BTB and the GTB.  And IF the MITB is too demanding then the GTB should discuss that in private with his mother.

This spoiled rotten bride has not been brought up well.  She obviously is use to getting her own way and is testing the GTB to see if he will put her before his mother.  He will loose no matter which way he goes unless he intervenes and shows respect toward his mother and the spoiled BTB and handles the situation in a fair and honorable way that can bring a compromise by each.  HOWEVER, if either of the women feels they have to continue to belittle the other after the GTB feels he has come up with a good compromise then I would again in a firm but loving tone, state the compromise and ask that each day forward is a new day.  If one woman has a problem with the other in the future, it would be nice of them to go to lunch together and calmly discuss their feelings.  And each needs to know that their feelings may not be what is actually happening.  Sometime we can feel someone doesn't like us and we find out later that they not only liked us but loved us.  Our feelings were incorrect.

There is no reason the BTB and MITB have to be great friends or see each other hardly at all.  They both need to think of the son and GTB and his feelings.  A son should be allowed and want to visit his mother periodically and the wife should not begrudge that and know that she doesn't have to visit with him.

My husband is an only child at 63 and his mother is 90.  He goes over every Saturday and takes her grocery shopping and makes sure things are attended to that are important to his mother that she can no longer do.  She isn't the best house keeper and she will not allow any of us to help and she can afford to hire a cleaning lade though she refuses to spend the money and believes she is capable and needs the exercise anyway.  I love her but going over and sitting in a very filthy house is not my idea of a good time.  We get along fine when we speak and do see each other.  I don't begrudge his time with her and she will insist he take good care of me when I am sick.

  I truly hope this BTB doesn't have kids right away and use them to keep his husband away from his mother.  There should be forgiveness and forgiveness should be asked by both women and given.  If you both love this man, then don't cause him grief.  If one of the women continues to cause grief, then he would be stupid to put up with it. 

There has to be limits, rules, guidelines to follow with these two families.  It is apparent that neither of the parties have much knowledge and experience with respecting people, overlooking another's weaknesses and forgiveness.

 I still believe the BTB's parent's should be ashamed of themselves.  Nobody thinks their child is capable of being cruel.  Well think of all the murderers behind bars or put to death.  Their parents didn't think they were capable of killing either.  Wake up Mom and Dad!  Your daughter is very self centered and you are just pushing her more towards the edge.  She will have no friends or men who will care for her long if they are worth having because smart people walk away from people like her.

 I have to admit that I am quite worried that there are actually people on this planet that can be so heartless.  It shouldn't matter what the mother in law to be (MITB) said in the past.  She has apologized and begged for forgiveness.  If I were the MITB I would find it very difficult to sit and take the continued accusations of the BTB (God forbid, can't the son see the real truth?) after apologizing to her and crying in front of the whole world (practically).  The BTB just wants to be right and show the MITB that she now has control of the son.  I can understand a bride not wanting to be married to a mommy's boy but that should be a topic discussed between the BTB and the GTB.  And IF the MITB is too demanding then the GTB should discuss that in private with his mother.

This spoiled rotten bride has not been brought up well.  She obviously is use to getting her own way and is testing the GTB to see if he will put her before his mother.  He will loose no matter which way he goes unless he intervenes and shows respect toward his mother and the spoiled BTB and handles the situation in a fair and honorable way that can bring a compromise by each.  HOWEVER, if either of the women feels they have to continue to belittle the other after the GTB feels he has come up with a good compromise then I would again in a firm but loving tone, state the compromise and ask that each day forward is a new day.  If one woman has a problem with the other in the future, it would be nice of them to go to lunch together and calmly discuss their feelings.  And each needs to know that their feelings may not be what is actually happening.  Sometime we can feel someone doesn't like us and we find out later that they not only liked us but loved us.  Our feelings were incorrect.

There is no reason the BTB and MITB have to be great friends or see each other hardly at all.  They both need to think of the son and GTB and his feelings.  A son should be allowed and want to visit his mother periodically and the wife should not begrudge that and know that she doesn't have to visit with him.

My husband is an only child at 63 and his mother is 90.  He goes over every Saturday and takes her grocery shopping and makes sure things are attended to that are important to his mother that she can no longer do.  She isn't the best house keeper and she will not allow any of us to help and she can afford to hire a cleaning lade though she refuses to spend the money and believes she is capable and needs the exercise anyway.  I love her but going over and sitting in a very filthy house is not my idea of a good time.  We get along fine when we speak and do see each other.  I don't begrudge his time with her and she will insist he take good care of me when I am sick.

  I truly hope this BTB doesn't have kids right away and use them to keep his husband away from his mother.  There should be forgiveness and forgiveness should be asked by both women and given.  If you both love this man, then don't cause him grief.  If one of the women continues to cause grief, then he would be stupid to put up with it. 

There has to be limits, rules, guidelines to follow with these two families.  It is apparent that neither of the parties have much knowledge and experience with respecting people, overlooking another's weaknesses and forgiveness.

 I still believe the BTB's parent's should be ashamed of themselves.  Nobody thinks their child is capable of being cruel.  Well think of all the murderers behind bars or put to death.  Their parents didn't think they were capable of killing either.  Wake up Mom and Dad!  Your daughter is very self centered and you are just pushing her more towards the edge.  She will have no friends or men who will care for her long if they are worth having because smart people walk away from people like her.

 I have to admit that I am quite worried that there are actually people on this planet that can be so heartless.  It shouldn't matter what the mother in law to be (MITB) said in the past.  She has apologized and begged for forgiveness.  If I were the MITB I would find it very difficult to sit and take the continued accusations of the BTB (God forbid, can't the son see the real truth?) after apologizing to her and crying in front of the whole world (practically).  The BTB just wants to be right and show the MITB that she now has control of the son.  I can understand a bride not wanting to be married to a mommy's boy but that should be a topic discussed between the BTB and the GTB.  And IF the MITB is too demanding then the GTB should discuss that in private with his mother.

This spoiled rotten bride has not been brought up well.  She obviously is use to getting her own way and is testing the GTB to see if he will put her before his mother.  He will loose no matter which way he goes unless he intervenes and shows respect toward his mother and the spoiled BTB and handles the situation in a fair and honorable way that can bring a compromise by each.  HOWEVER, if either of the women feels they have to continue to belittle the other after the GTB feels he has come up with a good compromise then I would again in a firm but loving tone, state the compromise and ask that each day forward is a new day.  If one woman has a problem with the other in the future, it would be nice of them to go to lunch together and calmly discuss their feelings.  And each needs to know that their feelings may not be what is actually happening.  Sometime we can feel someone doesn't like us and we find out later that they not only liked us but loved us.  Our feelings were incorrect.

There is no reason the BTB and MITB have to be great friends or see each other hardly at all.  They both need to think of the son and GTB and his feelings.  A son should be allowed and want to visit his mother periodically and the wife should not begrudge that and know that she doesn't have to visit with him.

My husband is an only child at 63 and his mother is 90.  He goes over every Saturday and takes her grocery shopping and makes sure things are attended to that are important to his mother that she can no longer do.  She isn't the best house keeper and she will not allow any of us to help and she can afford to hire a cleaning lade though she refuses to spend the money and believes she is capable and needs the exercise anyway.  I love her but going over and sitting in a very filthy house is not my idea of a good time.  We get along fine when we speak and do see each other.  I don't begrudge his time with her and she will insist he take good care of me when I am sick.

  I truly hope this BTB doesn't have kids right away and use them to keep his husband away from his mother.  There should be forgiveness and forgiveness should be asked by both women and given.  If you both love this man, then don't cause him grief.  If one of the women continues to cause grief, then he would be stupid to put up with it. 

There has to be limits, rules, guidelines to follow with these two families.  It is apparent that neither of the parties have much knowledge and experience with respecting people, overlooking another's weaknesses and forgiveness.

 I still believe the BTB's parent's should be ashamed of themselves.  Nobody thinks their child is capable of being cruel.  Well think of all the murderers behind bars or put to death.  Their parents didn't think they were capable of killing either.  Wake up Mom and Dad!  Your daughter is very self centered and you are just pushing her more towards the edge.  She will have no friends or men who will care for her long if they are worth having because smart people walk away from people like her.