Quote From: ang_tim94Oh come on! Give me a break, you could see it in that girls eyes. She showed nothing but hate for her mother-in-law. There is a time when you need to be the bigger person, and just stop the childish behavior. Cut off the oxygen supply- the fire wont burn. As far as your comment on hardly spending any time with your husbands side of the family, and not enjoying it when you do, what kind of effect fo you think that will have on your children? You may not agree with that way your in-laws act, but kids atleast need the chance to have that bond with their Grandparents, and make that decision for themselves.
Angela
There's been so many good things said about this show, and the way that Michelle acted, but I was really moved to respond to this one. You COULD see it in her eyes - she doesn't WANT to forgive her MIL.
She is really making a BIG mistake. You can't just cut people away from their family. Yes, you do grow up and move out, and I'm sure MIL is really going to have a hard time letting go, but she's at least TRYING! I really did get that she was trying. I'm sure you couldn't spend time in therapy with someone that good, and read a well-written book by someone who knows as much about life and family as Dr. Phil does, and not learn some things. Even if MIL just wanted to look good on TV, I would think that she has been getting enough good information that it would actually change her as a person for the better. The son's family is probably closer than Michelle's family is, and they probably actually talk to each other frequently and see each other often. Some families aren't close like that. They might only call or visit on some type of special occasion. Other families talk to each other all the time. My daughter-in-law calls my husband two or three times a day. It's been hard getting used to that. My husband is from Mexico and Hispanic families are usually very involved in each other's lives. I admire them greatly for their closeness to each other, and I wish I was more like that.
My husband is actually pretty selfish with his family. To him they are "his" family and he really doesn't want me getting very involved with them. He's just a stingy person - stingy with his money, time, energy, affection and everything else. I wish I was closer to the girls, but I don't want to be close to his sons because they are thieves and drug addicts. But his daughters have been so sweet to me - I'm really, really lucky. I've met his mother twice - we're working on his immigration status so he can't go to Mexico and see her - and she is just the sweetest, most loving person! Unfortunately she doesn't speak English and I don't speak very much Spanish. That and the fact that it is so hot there and they don't have air-conditioning is the only reason I don't spend a lot of time visiting her and getting to know her. I've taken Spanish in school, but it's HARD to learn another language when you're an adult! I really should make more of an effort to learn it. It's just been so frustrating and I failed Spanish II twice that I've kinda given up. But my mother-in-law is a sweetheart!
When the son told his mother her could "talk to her two or three times a month" - something to that effect - I could see that his mother wanted to be a bigger part of his life than that. She got tears in her eyes, and I could tell that her son has been a huge part of her life - duh! - and I think that Michelle just doesn't want to share her husband with his mother.
I thought it was so weird that the son didn't want to reveal his identity. I think he must have a position he was elected into. Good luck with that! This show is broadcasted all over the country and someone is going to recognize his wife. That was so stupid to try to stay anonymous. This show has had such a strong reaction that someone is going to recognize someone from the family.
