Quote From: monizgm All the sites I have visited have been very emphatic that even when you aren't having a break-out, you can still be "shedding" and should ALWAYS use a condom. Even then, they say there's always the chance that the condom isn't covering the area well enough to avoid transferring the disease. I know the symptoms well enough to know when a break-out is on the way.
I have felt like a leper ever since I contracted this disease from my ex-husband. I've been afraid to kiss children in case my saliva touched a scratch on their face or some such thing. My own son has been afraid to kiss me.
I'm not a young woman, I've had my life and I would have been content to live it out without another partner. But there is a man in my church who is interested in me. I told him about the herpes, and he is very concerned about contracting it himself should we decide to get married. We don't have sex right now because of our religious beliefs, so it's not a concern for him at the moment.
I will visit the website you mentioned. It's good to get some new information on this subject. Thank you so much for your kindness.
It is always possible I guess but highly unlikely. Usually, if you are having "shedding" it is during the time you are having the pre-breakout symptoms or right after. You cannot spread it through saliva, period. Nor does it spread via blood. For example, my Mom needed surgery and wanted my sisters and I to give blood to use. I asked my doctor whether I could give the herpes to my Mom that way and he said no. This was years ago when I still didn't know that much about it.
All I can say to the man you are interested in: I've been with my current husband 2 yrs in November, ex husband 10 years, 2 boyfriends in college for several years each. None of them have it, I never used a condom, just didn't have relations when I was breaking out or felt I was getting ready to have a break out. Like I said though at first, it is possible, my husband is aware of that, knows I am very careful, and we would both be devastated if he contracted it....but we just love each other so much and we put our life in God's hands. Good luck to you. May you have a heavenly week!
