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I cannot imagine how this makes you feel! This is really big news. Standing by your husband when he got his mistress pregnant is a very personal decision; if you feel in your heart that he is lying to you about not being with her, you MUST listen to your instincts.
You’ve got to ask yourself, are you better with or without him?
Are you going to be able to lovingly accept this baby in your heart? Will you be able to forgive your husband and live a happy, healthy life together?
Be 100% honest with yourself, you deserve to have a happy, fulfilling life. Your husband has lied to you and now he is having a baby with another woman!
Regarding your daughter- remember this- you are the most powerful female role model she will ever have. You are teaching her what is ‘normal.’ By staying in this relationship, you are teaching your daughter that when men cheat and disrespect women, it is okay. If it isn’t okay with you, you must be proactive for yourself; you deserve so much more! I wish you the best, take care of YOU!

 You cannot begin to heal until you decide what YOU are going to do. Your husband has made his decision, he wants you to stand by him. You are sure he is still seeing the woman he impregnated and suspect he is seeing another woman too.
You say you don't know what to do. This is understandable, we don't sign on for this kind of grief when we get married do we? Nonetheless, it IS happening, and it's happening to YOU. So I suggest you take inventory.
1) What did you both do when you "tryed to work on" your marriage after you found out about the affair? Did it work, in other words, are YOU now sure that your marriage is moving in the right direction?
2) Is your husband showing any sort of responsiblilty towards the child he has helped to start? Is he at least willing to take a paternity test, to acknowledge whether he is truly the father and take on the obligations of child support?
3) If he is the father, how do you feel about that? If he wanted to be a father to this child, would you be willing to get to know the child? And if he wants nothing to do with it, even to find out if he is the father, how would you feel about that?
4) Can you ever trust him again? What would he have to do to get back your respect and trust? Do you think he is capable or willing to do these things?
5) Do you think he will ever be the husband you obviously want him to be?

He wants you to stand beside him. What do you want and will he deliver?