Quote From: cyncritterEither honor your contract, or get out! To badger your husband into allowing you to have a baby against his will is WRONG! If you want a child that badly, give this man his freedom to NOT be a father, and go find someone who wants to be a daddy to your tick-tock child. Vows are supposed to be forever... the wedding vows as well as agreed upon contracts made when you both felt the same way. If he ultimately gives in and you have a child with him, he will be saddled with support of the child if he doesn't have a change of heart, and that's totally unfair - to the child AND to him. He should not have to give in to your demands because you're feeling old and insecure. And if you really feel the only thing that will bring you happiness is to have a baby of your own, then relieve this man of any unwanted guilt and obligation. Let him go and go on to be whomever you think you have become, and do what you believe is necessary for you.
I think she was mature by telling her husband she wants a baby. I have no doubt she went into the marriage not wanting kids, people do change their minds. Now they have the choice, live together with no children and she will forever wonder if thats the best decision, divorce and she can re marry and have a baby, have a child and he might regret it or he might not.
My husband and I went through a talk alot like this. Before getting engaged I made it clear in a few years I would like to have 1 or 2 children. He never wanted kids, or didn't think he wanted them. He said to toss a relationship away for those reason didn't seem right, seemed to early to end over. I let him know my feelings about children would never go away. I could not live my life with no children, unless i was un able to become pregnant and I could not have some one having a child with me because that was the only way to stay with me. We got engaged and decided we would have kids years later, though we didn't know my birth control decided it didn't want to work any longer, lol.
She should not have to live her life wondering, he shouldn't have to be forced into anything.
