Replies to '12/06 Desperate to Be a Mom'

That people shoud be forced to breed and put the kids up for adoption to supply people who can't breed with kids?

 

And if you can't understand why people might not want kids, your ability to understand things is pretty limited.

There are just as many valid reasons for not having children as there are for having them.

 

And, people should not assume that just because a child gets adopted that he/she is going to a good, loving home.

 

And, not everyone who adopts is unable to have children.

I have 2 kids(grown). I wouldn't have missed it for the world. I reached an age(around 25) when I had a yearning for a baby. It was not something I consciously decided. It just happened. My husband wanted kids too,so there was no disagreement.

 Having said that, I can absolutely understand that there are people who just simply do not desire children. I don't think they should have to justify that decision.

I can certainly see where there would be a problem if one spouse wants a child and the other does not. And I have known of marriages that dissolved for that very reason.

I expect that if one half of a couple realizes that the 2 of them are not in agreement about having children, then they probably should not get married.

There's not much of a way to compromise.

Oh, give me a break!!   Not everyone wants children believe it or not.  I think that chldren can just suck every ounce of energy out of a person and would totally take over a person's life.  Why would anyone want that? 

 

I have a husband who I  love with all my heart and soul and would not want  to take any time and attention away from him.  Besides, there are way too many people in this very over-crowded world.  Ever think of that? 

You don't need to understand why people think differently than you do. There are plenty of people who for any number of reasons don't want children, there is nothing wrong with either schools of thought.

Clearly, Tanya believes that what she wants supersedes all and frankly she doesn't care about what her husband wants. A friend was 48 when his wife had their last child (her idea, not his). He's happy to have that child, but he sure wishes that at age 63, he didn't have to deal with a teen. If you don't have the kid in the first place, then you don't need to worry about how could you live without the kid. You cannot miss what is not there.

There is no compromise in this situation, Tanya wants a baby and will do whatever she needs to do to have that child, with or without her husband. If she was unsure at the time, then she lied to her husband in the first place when she said she did not want to have children.