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December 3, 2007, 4:19 am PST
 Quote From: themotivator Todays teens behavior is the result of changes in the structure of the family that dates back to the pioneer era. In early times the father built the home and farmed for food. The mother took care of the home and raised the chidren. The industrial age changed the family structure when the father went away took a factory or office job leaving the mother insecure and detached. Females then started the feminist movement demanding to be equal to men. They drove cars, got the rights to vote, took up smoking, and went to work out side the home leaving the children in the care of others. The equality women demanded is a delicate topic that needs to balance the roles of women as a mother and a wife and a males as a husband and a father. For females to continue to deslove men's masculanity by demanding equaility only puts a downward trend on the structure of the family First of all, my initial response to reading this post may be considered a little odd. I was a SAHM to 2 kids. Now, I still stay at home as a housewife. So, in effect, I haven't "desolved my husband's masculanity". But I do drive a car, vote, and for some strange reason, started smoking at the tender age of 46. Women deserve the rights we have. I'm not so sure that things would be a whole lot different if we were still in the stone age. Adolescence is adolescense no matter whether the mother stays at home or smokes or drives or votes.
My husband came from a very stable family, stay at home mom, the works. As a teen he was fairly wild. Drove too fast, drank a beer or 2. Fortunately, he made it through without killing himself or anyone else. When he was a teen, he was just sneaky and his parents didn't know about his escapades.
Myself, I came from a family without a land phone, indoor plumbing, we were fortunate to have ONE car to our name. I never expected that my father was going to buy me a car. I went to work and bought one. It's not like it was ever discussed that's just the way it was. My mother was a SAHM also, (She never drove a car, voted, smoked, or worked outside the home.)
My brothers did some crazy things as teen-agers. They have out-grown that, some took a lot longer than others.
We have raised 2 kids, they made it through fairly unscathed.
I don't know the answer to this problem. But I really don't think the reason for it is that we women have gained our deserved rights and place in society. I can think of plenty of situations where the mother stayed at home and still had out-of-control-teens. And situations where the mother worked outside the home and the kids were well behaved and stayed out of trouble.
Each situation is different. Parents just have to do the best they can and hope for a good outcome. |
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