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December 8, 2007, 6:57 am PST
12/06 Desperate to Be a Mom
Quote From: behaveurwayWhether or not you want children is something two people should talk about before they marry.
It's sad and sick to hear of a woman who is married to someone who refuses to have biological children with her if that's something she desperately wants. I don't have children yet, but I can't imagine the devastation of someone hitting menopause while waiting around for an insensitive husband to change his mind. Life is too short. If a woman wants children and her husband refuses, I'd say that's a "deal breaker" and instant grounds for divorce.
Women are on borrowed time with procreation. A man can change his mind at 70 if he suddenly decides he wants children.
After menopause, and woman has lost her chance for biological children forever.
My husband and I certainly discussed having children before we got married. He totally agreed that he would "love to have a family" with me. Now thirteen years into our marriage, he refuses. He put me off for many years saying he just wasn't ready yet and now it's just a firm "no." I truly don't feel that he mislead me - he simply changed his mind. As the woman in the story did, people certainly have a right to change their minds. But I will not give up my dream to be a mom so I'm doing it on my own utilizing a sperm bank. I'm disappointed that the topic of women having a baby on their own was not brought up as a topic on this show. I'm 40 years old and, therefore, don't really have time to waste trying to find and fall in love with someone else.
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